Questions about friendship post surgery

[mrdr 247]

I had my surgery a couple of years ago. It has been both good and bad. I started off around 330. At my lowest I got down to 159. Now Im regulated at 180 pounds. Ive went up and down and it can be stressful. I had a social life prior to the surgery after the surgery not so much.

I cant eat or drink alot. I really cant eat and drink at the same time. Im still not eating a full meal and im cool with that tho. It just makes it a little rough with friends who want to go out eat and drink and im sitting on the side either nibbling at something or sipping on something for the entire night...lol

I havent told many people so ppl may wonder why im sipping and nibbling and I usually give some lame excuse.

My question is did you find that your friendships and intimate relationships changed after surgery? Any body start over with love?

[PatientEleventyBillion 851]

In my case I'm lucky in that my wife and I a few years ago moved across Canada. Undoubtedly when I visit my family and in-laws there will be many questions and shock about my weight drop. While I'm very social, my wife isn't really an outgoing person. She prefers to keep to us, our daughter, and some of her old friends back in Ontario. I know plenty of people from both work and college but I prefer to keep those things separate from private life. So for us we don't really encounter those situations. Besides that, my wife is Chinese, and her family is already accustomed to me hating their food (I hate like 98% of food which I'm sure makes many people wonder how I got fat in the first place) so me avoiding their dinners and eating out beforehand won't be anything new.

[Madmanpbsgc 94]

Dude! who cares what they think go out with your friends have fun have a life. if they ask and most likely they wont tell them your not hungry. or your watching your carb intake. point of it all is you are a new size not a new person.

[_Kate_ 2,224]

I had a great social life before and have a great social life now. It hasn't changed a bit (very early days I just used to go out with family and friends who knew what I had had done though).

Life is there to live and don't care what others say. Congratulations on the weight loss !!

[mrdr 247]

Thank you for your responses everyone.