how do you know you are ready?

[mombland 0]

I am a newbie! Looking to have gastric bypass in August. I think I am ready but I am not sure. Am I ready to commit to a different future? I want to think so. I am a healthy 45 year old mom of 4. I have two grown children and a 16 and a 9 yr old. I think I am ready to do something that is just for me. I am also very scared!!!! How do you know you are really ready?? I am very fortunate to not have any physical difficulties that go along with being very overweight but I know that they are right around the corner and I want a different future than the one I see if I stay on the path I am on. Did any of you ever have a moment when you thought "YES!!"? If so, when? and how did it come about?

[achappex3 346]

I don't think there's necessarily a "Yes!!" moment. At least there wasn't for me. I was eager and counting down nonstop, and now that surgery is tomorrow I'm fighting the doubt which is saying "Are you sure you want to do this?" "What if this doesn't work?!"

But I know this is needed regardless. I'm 23 and a mommy to (almost) 3 year olds. I'm doing this for them! They need me to be as healthy as possible, and I know that if I continue to live the way that I am eventually I will run into health issues (which I currently don't have-- luckily).

You've got this! Keep researching into you are as confident about it as possible.

[mombland 0]

Thank you so much for your imput!! I will keep you in my prayers tomorrow. After you get home and settled please tell us how everything went.

[MerryHearted 20]

For me it was the stacking up of issues: tired all the time, high blood pressure, diabetes and Metformin wasn't getting my blood sugar under control which started to cause issues, high cholesterol, sleep apnea... in the fall I started taking more pills for these things and I decided it was time to get things under control. I was 46, almost 47 and didn't want to start having heart issues or problems from the diabetes quite so soon!

[Moonmovingsoul 2]

If all goes well I'll be having surgery August/Sept. I'm mom to two kids 7.5 months and 5. Every day I'm back and forth as I make my way through this process. My original hope was to have the sleeve but due to severe GERD I am not a candidate. I'm terrified of RNY from 15 years ago hearing horror stories. But reading more and more I realize that doctors have really perfected this surgery, and the risk of me having a serious complication from obesity is higher than the surgery in general. I have lost and gained 150 lbs in my life. I need something to stop the yoyo, I need something to keep me healthy, I need this tool to make me stay accountable. I need this to stop the horrific GERD that keeps me up at night, despite meds. Repeat repeat repeat everyday

[nocturnalgemi 66]

My surgery is in a couple of weeks and while I'm mostly ready, it's starting to hit me. I still go back and forth to this day. I just keep thinking about the benefits: I'm delaying (hopefully completely preventing) diabetes that my mom and grandmother have. I'll be 36 in a few months but my body is starting to ache and feel much older. I want to eventually travel so I need my body to feel better. I want to enjoy life! Keep reminding yourself of all of the positives every time you feel scared. It helps to calm me down! Like achappex3 said, I haven't had a big yes moment either. It's been a little series of yes moments, especially as I get closer to the date.

[pwrtp 41]

There is no simple Yes moment. You have the opportunity to get up off the gurney even as you're waiting to go into the surgery. I had those feelings and thoughts but I put my eyes on the end goal and trusted in the Lord.

It's all the things that I want to be able to do that I used to be able to that are driving me forward. It's knowing that my body hasn't failed me yet but if I stay the course that I've been on it most certainly will. It's in my brother being hardly able to walk due to his size or my mom who is enormous and has diabetes that helps me drive the decision also. I don't judge them I just don't want to follow that path.
I recognize my weakness to control my eating habits and simply want another tool to help me past it. This isn't going to fix it, it's going to help me. I appreciate the love and support of my wife who didn't want me to do this but understood that it was my decision and what my long-term goals were. I didn't want to be a burden to her as we age together.

[pvechiola 195]

There is no simple Yes moment. You have the opportunity to get up off the gurney even as you're waiting to go into the surgery. I had those feelings and thoughts but I put my eyes on the end goal and trusted in the Lord.

It's all the things that I want to be able to do that I used to be able to that are driving me forward. It's knowing that my body hasn't failed me yet but if I stay the course that I've been on it most certainly will. It's in my brother being hardly able to walk due to his size or my mom who is enormous and has diabetes that helps me drive the decision also. I don't judge them I just don't want to follow that path.
I recognize my weakness to control my eating habits and simply want another tool to help me past it. This isn't going to fix it, it's going to help me. I appreciate the love and support of my wife who didn't want me to do this but understood that it was my decision and what my long-term goals were. I didn't want to be a burden to her as we age together.

My mom is also completely against this surgery and has asked people at her work about it and all she tells me is horror stories about it but my drs are awesome and there are more successful stories than bad ones so im going for it, I've tried doing it her way for the past three years and gotten nowhere, I am just looking for some extra help and an extra tool to help me there. I'm going for it hopefully in April. [emoji3]

[maraki2208 10]

If all goes well I'll be having surgery August/Sept. I'm mom to two kids 7.5 months and 5. Every day I'm back and forth as I make my way through this process. My original hope was to have the sleeve but due to severe GERD I am not a candidate. I'm terrified of RNY from 15 years ago hearing horror stories. But reading more and more I realize that doctors have really perfected this surgery, and the risk of me having a serious complication from obesity is higher than the surgery in general. I have lost and gained 150 lbs in my life. I need something to stop the yoyo, I need something to keep me healthy, I need this tool to make me stay accountable. I need this to stop the horrific GERD that keeps me up at night, despite meds. Repeat repeat repeat everyday

[maraki2208 10]

If all goes well I'll be having surgery August/Sept. I'm mom to two kids 7.5 months and 5. Every day I'm back and forth as I make my way through this process. My original hope was to have the sleeve but due to severe GERD I am not a candidate. I'm terrified of RNY from 15 years ago hearing horror stories. But reading more and more I realize that doctors have really perfected this surgery, and the risk of me having a serious complication from obesity is higher than the surgery in general. I have lost and gained 150 lbs in my life. I need something to stop the yoyo, I need something to keep me healthy, I need this tool to make me stay accountable. I need this to stop the horrific GERD that keeps me up at night, despite meds. Repeat repeat repeat everyday

[maraki2208 10]

If all goes well I'll be having surgery August/Sept. I'm mom to two kids 7.5 months and 5. Every day I'm back and forth as I make my way through this process. My original hope was to have the sleeve but due to severe GERD I am not a candidate. I'm terrified of RNY from 15 years ago hearing horror stories. But reading more and more I realize that doctors have really perfected this surgery, and the risk of me having a serious complication from obesity is higher than the surgery in general. I have lost and gained 150 lbs in my life. I need something to stop the yoyo, I need something to keep me healthy, I need this tool to make me stay accountable. I need this to stop the horrific GERD that keeps me up at night, despite meds. Repeat repeat repeat everyday

[maraki2208 10]

My surgery is in a couple of weeks and while I'm mostly ready, it's starting to hit me. I still go back and forth to this day. I just keep thinking about the benefits: I'm delaying (hopefully completely preventing) diabetes that my mom and grandmother have. I'll be 36 in a few months but my body is starting to ache and feel much older. I want to eventually travel so I need my body to feel better. I want to enjoy life! Keep reminding yourself of all of the positives every time you feel scared. It helps to calm me down! [emoji4] Like achappex3 said, I haven't had a big yes moment either. It's been a little series of yes moments, especially as I get closer to the date.