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I just had my last appointment with the bariatric team prior to surgery. Waiting on approval from insurance so we have an anticipated surgery date of March 20. My biggest concern is that after surgery I won't loose the weight and that this will be just another failed attempt at loosing weight. Just thinking about this devastates me as I feel this is my last option. Has anyone else felt like this? What are some of your keys for success in the long term?

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I'm getting sleeved on the 8th march and feel the exact same way ?
I guess we just need to trust the process and acknowledge everyone will lose differently.



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I had surgery Oct 24th and I have a really hard time sticking to my diet. I tried talking to people on here, but most just shame me for it. This surgery doesn't change your brain. What I have started doing lately is hobbies; something to keep busy (especially my hands) as I am a boredom eater. You need to find support in your friends and family... surround yourself with positivity. Find new ways to go out without food involved.

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Imagine, instead of surgery, your life change is an adoption. You are going to the hospital to pick up a new little baby. Think about that baby and her needs. You want her to grow up strong and healthy. Do you feed her baked potato or french fries? Baked chicken, or fried? Ice cream or greek yogurt? (And the great thing is this baby will do what you tell her to!)

Surgery gives you a new chance at life. The baby you are feeding is yourself.

Christians experience a spiritual rebirth when they become believers... wls patients get a rebirth of their own.

It will be a new day, but it will be up to the patient to make the most of it.




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The surgery will work if you follow the program.

You will lose weight. It might be slow (and no, 15-20 pounds in month 1 is not slow, no matter how often people freak out about it). The problem is almost always maintenance. So, start now by making the lifestyle changes you need.

Don't want to fail? Make the most of your pre-op time. Don't have food funerals. Find an exercise you enjoy and start. That doesn't have to mean getting a gym membership, either. Educate yourself on the surgery and nutrition. Start tracking your food now--every single bite.

You will lose weight. How much you lose and how long you keep it off depends on your commitment and the changes you make to your lifestyle.

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