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Has Your Circle of Friends Changed After Weight Loss Surgery?



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Weight loss surgery leads to all kinds of changes. They can affect each other and may end up affecting your social in various ways for various reasons. You may end up changing your circle of friends and social habits.

One common reason is simple: it is your change in eating habits. You are no longer interested in meeting up for coffee and Bagels, a multi-course dinner, or Friday night at the bar. You may cut ties or limit interactions with friends if your entire relationship revolves around unhealthy eating and drinking.

Another reason might be the changes that take place inside you throughout the weight loss surgery journey. You might gain confidence and be more sensitive to who is really looking out for your health, and who is not. You might choose to hang out with healthier or more supportive friends instead of old eating buddies who are afraid you are going to leave them in the dust when it comes to getting healthy.

Sometimes, you can keep your old friends. They may be willing to meet for a walk instead of lunch, or you can order coffee and skip the doughnuts. You might also pick up new friends who share your new interests in losing weight and working out, for example.

So, have you changed your social habits after weight loss surgery? How?

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My circle of friends didn't change at all. Maybe because I never had what is often referred to as "eating buddies" on here and gatherings were never solely or mostly about food.

Anyway, I still can meet people for coffee and/or something to eat. I can still meet people for lunch. I just eat a smaller portion and take left overs with me if the food was good.

You might also pick up new friends who share your new interests in losing weight and working out, for example.

Honestly? No, thanks.

I don't want to pick up new friends whose lives revolve around losing weight, healthy nutrition and working out. I want friends that are less obsessed than I am with this part of life and keep me sane.

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Definitely. Some of my friends have remained the same whether they knew i had surgery or not.

But i have definitely lost a few because i'm getting smaller and healthier. And that's perfectly fine with me. They were just dead weight anyway.

Since having my surgery i've made friends with tons of new people who have also had wls and it's just a better feeling. I can actually relate to them.

One of my really good friends from the past still hangs out with me and she loves to go out to eat. We still do, but she respects that fact that i only eat certain healthy foods now and she's been fine with it.

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My circle has not changed due to the surgery. I feel that my friends don't feel that I have not changed other than the fact that I have shrunk in size.

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One of my friends urged me to do the surgery. The others are seeing the results and are happy. I don't think I'll be changing friends anytime soon.. :D

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My circle has widened. Not only do I have all of my old friends, I've made some great new ones in my Tae Kwon Do classes.

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