Dating?....

hdw85 · January 22, 2017

So I think I saw this topic before but I couldn't find it again.. So, I am 31 and have lost 78 lbs so far and have about 28 to go to hit my goal weight. I am a very happy, go-lucky person and haven't been in a relationship for about 7 years. I have been thinking about trying to put myself out there in the dating scene again but I'm not sure how I would bring up the bypass topic. For instance, if I was going to go out to dinner on a date, do I tell him why I would only eat a few bites, or how have others handled that? Do you tell them up front that you've had it, or wait for a time for it to come up?

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cassandramarie93 · January 22, 2017

For me personally I feel the best way to go about this is being honest. There is nothing to be ashamed about. You chose to put your health first and that's something to be proud of. If anything it's an interesting conversation starter as well. Usually people aren't familiar with the ins and outs of this surgery and it's exciting to be in a position to break the stigma behind WLS. Don't overthink it! The whole point of a date is to get familiar with someone and to enjoy their company. If it comes up then good! If it doesn't and you decide to go out again eventually it will. The surgery is just a small piece of what makes you the person that you are.

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