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I had the gastric bypass RNY (or is the r&y??) on October 5th. I unfortunately had a rare complication of internal bleeding, my incisions ripped. On top of that I have a blood disorder, factor5, which causes blood clots- had several on/around the area. The surgeon actually told my parents I had a high chance of dying. Luckily, I am still here. Had to spend multiple days in the ICU and then multiple days in the regular IP hospital.

I had some delays with my progress. I started at 257. 3 months out I am 205. My doctor tells me I'm where in supposed to be. I just don't feel I am. Does anyone else have this issue? It's as if no matter what you feel it's not enough? I barely eat as is but when I do I feel like a complete pig, when in reality I'm not eating enough.. My fear right now is my mindset has turned harsh, i don't want to adopt bad eating habits or a eating disorder. Has anyone struggled with this?

I also want to add my entire immediate family had had the surgery besides my youngest brother. I tend to compare myself to them. Ironically, I tried to help my mom not to compare herself to them as we are all different....

I just really want to know if I'm alone on this battle or is there someone somewhere struggling too....

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I'm still pre surgery but wanted to send you my best wishes and hopes for a full recovery and maintenance! You go lass!

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52 lbs in three months is phenomenal. You'll need to adjust your expectations. I know you'll see people who drop like 30 lbs the first month, but they're few and far between. Your weight loss is excellent - above average, I'd say. I *was* a slow loser - the medical resident at my clinic told me that (not what I wanted to hear...). The first six months or so, I was consistently behind the curve. BUT, I've also lost 227 lbs (ALL of my excess weight - I'm now at a normal BMI). Your rate of weight loss has little bearing on your final result. Your hard work and commitment, on the other hand, has a *huge* bearing on your final result.

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You are doing Awesome! I lost a lot like you the first 3 months and then it really slowed down. I think I lost the same as you and now I am 150 at 11 months post op! Losing 52 lbs. has to feel amazing. I know it did for me. I have been losing 3 to 5 lbs. monthly since October. Slow but, I am only 7 lbs. from my goal weight. Your results are going to be better if you aren't so stressed out! Start blogging, exercising or creating delicious dinners. I know I lose more weight when I eat more. But it has to be the right kind of more. Proteins for instance. I hope you start feeling your doing great, cuz you are! Best of everything to ya!

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