AGreenEyedWolf 97 Posted January 17, 2017 Just had my pre-op surgeon meeting... I've got 7 more days till surgery. I got here so apprehensive that I was almost in tears... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? Am I going to have complications? Is this all worth it? Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? After talking to my surgeon, nurse, and nutritionist... I do feel a little better... but I admit I'm struggling... anyone else having these feelings too? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Elizabeth73 25 Posted January 17, 2017 I've had the same concerns. I'm past 6 months and have lost 63lbs and am starting to wonder if I continue to lose weight, do I even need the surgery! I get my sleep study results today and after this, I will have no more requirements. These concerns are real!!! Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
_Kate_ 2,224 Posted January 17, 2017 @@AGreenEyedWolf ..... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? (Yes) Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? (Yes) Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? (Maybe but its worth the risk) Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? (no - you are a sucess for doing something about it!!) How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? (They have a couple of days in the house breaking all the rules and having man to man time lol) Am I going to have complications? (Focus on being positive) Is this all worth it? (Yes) Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? (It will be a shock how your taste buds change after surgery and some of those mentioned might not interest you anymore. I have a new appreciation for good food and can't stand some of the junk I used to eat. Physically just cant eat it. Im 17 months now and if I am at a birthday party, I will have maybe a bite or two of the cake rather than wanting to eat the whole cake !) You got this!! Let us know how everything goes and Congratulations Kate Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nyjoe71 0 Posted January 17, 2017 I am exactly at the point with the same thoughts as you. I just went for my pre-surgical testing today and I am scheduled to have surgery next Tuesday. I already backed out 2 months ago and am trying to get there again. It's really a tough mental struggle. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonkat5355 70 Posted January 17, 2017 Just had my pre-op surgeon meeting... I've got 7 more days till surgery. I got here so apprehensive that I was almost in tears... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? Am I going to have complications? Is this all worth it? Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? After talking to my surgeon, nurse, and nutritionist... I do feel a little better... but I admit I'm struggling... anyone else having these feelings too? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App I think we all do. So many thoughts have crossed my mind. I think it's normal! I feel stressed too but decided this surgery outweighs the negative affects of obesity! I am not going to feel ashamed because I have been on so many diets and have kept it off for quite awhile before. Now with age and menopause it's not as easy. I want to enjoy my life that is left. I'm 61 and 8 months old. So 62 is right there. Best of Luck...my day is January 31. ????sonkat5355???? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonkat5355 70 Posted January 17, 2017 I've had the same concerns. I'm past 6 months and have lost 63lbs and am starting to wonder if I continue to lose weight, do I even need the surgery! I get my sleep study results today and after this, I will have no more requirements. These concerns are real!!! Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App How much do you have to lose? If u can keep it up and off then go for it. Are you young? You have time. But as my surgeon says all but a few of the biggest losers have gained back and more. ????sonkat5355???? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sonkat5355 70 Posted January 17, 2017 @@AGreenEyedWolf ..... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? (Yes) Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? (Yes) Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? (Maybe but its worth the risk) Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? (no - you are a sucess for doing something about it!!) How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? (They have a couple of days in the house breaking all the rules and having man to man time lol) Am I going to have complications? (Focus on being positive) Is this all worth it? (Yes) Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? (It will be a shock how your taste buds change after surgery and some of those mentioned might not interest you anymore. I have a new appreciation for good food and can't stand some of the junk I used to eat. Physically just cant eat it. Im 17 months now and if I am at a birthday party, I will have maybe a bite or two of the cake rather than wanting to eat the whole cake !) You got this!! Let us know how everything goes and Congratulations Kate Great advice!!! ????sonkat5355???? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
teeshan 19 Posted January 17, 2017 I went to my first consultation in April 2016. I didn't make a decision to have the surgery until November 2016. I took my time to decide if this what what I really wanted to do. I tried unsuccessfully, again, to try to lose weight on my own. I made the decision in November because I decided I wanted the part of my life back when it was fun and exciting. Not debilitating and filled with taking meds daily. I am 43 years old and have bursitis in both hips, Achilles tendonitis in both heels, arthritis in my right knee, lower back pain, asthma, sleep apnea, acid reflux, high blood pressure, and edema. I told myself that it's more dangerous to remain this way than to have the surgery. I want to be bend over and tie my shoes with ease, cross my legs, stand without having to count myself up. I know I won't be able to eat like I used to and I have already been practicing. I have found several cookbooks on Amazon pertaining to weight loss surgery and the recipes don't sound/look too bad. Think of what your goals are and how you think this surgery will help you attain them. Good luck to you! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HealthierMe2017 22 Posted January 18, 2017 I've had the same concerns. I'm past 6 months and have lost 63lbs and am starting to wonder if I continue to lose weight, do I even need the surgery! I get my sleep study results today and after this, I will have no more requirements. These concerns are real!!! Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App I am waiting for my sleep study results also! I'm depending on it to get approved... did you any of the symptoms and things? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
strengthin#ers 195 Posted January 18, 2017 (edited) @@AGreenEyedWolf ..... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? (Yes) Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? (Yes) Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? (Maybe but its worth the risk) Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? (no - you are a sucess for doing something about it!!) How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? (They have a couple of days in the house breaking all the rules and having man to man time lol) Am I going to have complications? (Focus on being positive) Is this all worth it? (Yes) Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? (It will be a shock how your taste buds change after surgery and some of those mentioned might not interest you anymore. I have a new appreciation for good food and can't stand some of the junk I used to eat. Physically just cant eat it. Im 17 months now and if I am at a birthday party, I will have maybe a bite or two of the cake rather than wanting to eat the whole cake !) You got this!! Let us know how everything goes and Congratulations Kate You answered that very week. Very encouraging. God bless you Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal Appvery well, I meant Edited January 18, 2017 by strengthin#ers Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
strengthin#ers 195 Posted January 18, 2017 Very well.....I meant Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G928A using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReneeKay 9 Posted January 18, 2017 Just had my pre-op surgeon meeting... I've got 7 more days till surgery. I got here so apprehensive that I was almost in tears... I kept thinking things like, will I ever enjoy eating again? Will I ever be able to have lunch out with friends again? Will I be so miserable I regret the surgery? Am I a failure because I have to resort to surgery to lose weight? How will my husband and son (and my pets) handle a couple days without me while I'm hospitalized? Am I going to have complications? Is this all worth it? Do I really want to give up sweets, Snacks, steaks, sodas, etc... FOREVER?? After talking to my surgeon, nurse, and nutritionist... I do feel a little better... but I admit I'm struggling... anyone else having these feelings too? Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App Hello, this is the exact way I've been feeling. I know I'm having mine in March and idk what too do. Will I be the same, will I still want too "enjoy" food? I guess it's a mental thing. But I constantly have a voice telling me don't do it. But I have to or I'll be obese and continue gaining till it kills me. My daughter is getting married in sept and I need her to be proud of me. Ugh I just don't know. Sorry for the rant. Sent from my SM-N920V using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AGreenEyedWolf 97 Posted January 22, 2017 Reneekay, I know what you mean... there are many reasons for me to lose weight... I need my health to improve, I need to weigh less in order to be more active for my children and grandchildren, I want to live longer, and God knows I want to feel better about myself and change the way people think about me when they look at me. But I still can't help thinking that I already REALLY miss eating things I enjoy... and that I'll never again for the rest of my life eat more than 2 to 3 bites of food at a time, which really doesn't sound very enjoyable... and asking myself: do I really want to give up the food I enjoy so much in exchange for being miserable and in pain for who knows how long and never again being able to enjoy more than a couple bites of food? I'll be honest... today is Sunday and my surgery is scheduled for Wednesday and I'm still completely terrified that either way I'll be choosing wrong. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites