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They are arrange of sizes. I hope they come arround. I gave my fiance 3 months to adjust to it and he called it a unnecessary surgery and didnt support me so i broke the engagement off yesterday. It's really hard thanks for you guys ... Atleast you all support me

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My mom was so opposed to the surgery I decided not to have it, now after almost 2 years I still lose and gain the same 20-25 lbs all day everyday, I am back to my nutrition classes and have about four months to go. My mom is acting like she's going to disown me but she's my best friend and she's just scared and won't change her mind but I am not doing this for her and she isn't the one carrying around an extra 80 - 100 lbs every day.

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Thats exactly how i feel ! Im so sorry you feel it too !

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Yes it's a bummer but when she sees how much happier and healthier I am after recuperating she still won't admit that I did the right thing some thing about Italians they are so stubborn!!

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I told them first I was thinking about it and gradually told them oh yeah my nutrition classes start and eventually told them I was definitely having the surgery. So I gave them a little info at a time to make it easier for them to absorb and it worked pretty good,now they know I am not changing my mind.

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@@logen000 I told my TWIN sister about 2 days ago and she was absolutely horrible about it... calling me a quitter, 'you're dumber than I thought', I'm giving up etc. keep in mind she's about 20 lbs heavier than myself and has not tried other methods of losing like I have! It was really really hurtful, so I understand. I've decided that I'm not going to provide her with any updates. My life. My body. My choice.

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@@logen000 I told my TWIN sister about 2 days ago and she was absolutely horrible about it... calling me a quitter, 'you're dumber than I thought', I'm giving up etc. keep in mind she's about 20 lbs heavier than myself and has not tried other methods of losing like I have! It was really really hurtful, so I understand. I've decided that I'm not going to provide her with any updates. My life. My body. My choice.

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Sounds like she's worried that instead of 20 pounds heavier than you, she'll be 120 pounds heavier. Hopefully she can educate herself about this surgery and maybe she'll join you.

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@@logen000 I told my TWIN sister about 2 days ago and she was absolutely horrible about it... calling me a quitter, 'you're dumber than I thought', I'm giving up etc. keep in mind she's about 20 lbs heavier than myself and has not tried other methods of losing like I have! It was really really hurtful, so I understand. I've decided that I'm not going to provide her with any updates. My life. My body. My choice.

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Sounds like she's worried that instead of 20 pounds heavier than you, she'll be 120 pounds heavier. Hopefully she can educate herself about this surgery and maybe she'll join you.

I agree, I do think that's what it is.

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@@Tufflaw

Perhaps pouch reset and if that doesn't work, a revision? there are therapists who specialize in binge eating disorder. I found an intensive outpatient program that included supportive eating (where you learn to recognize hunger and fullness cues), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (a behavior modification support), movement therapy, nutrition and other insight based therapies. I am going back after surgery and as often after that as needed. I know I will need the support. It's very hard to change something your body knows and you've been doing since childhood.

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