LadyNada 0 Posted January 2, 2017 Hope you are doing good and feel better. Certainly, none deserves to be disrespected or hurt. Nothing justifies hitting a women. Hope you get the clarity you need to do whatever you need to do. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jaynamy3 122 Posted January 2, 2017 Do not consider yourself a statistic! You are blessed! You are a blessed child of God and blessed because he didn't do anything more than he did (which was way to much) but furthermore your blessed to have courage to be able to come on here and own up to all this. I for one am VERY proud of you! You have such a bright future ahead of you! Remember nothing is worse than KILLING THEM WITH KINDNESS! The nicer you are the more names you will be called and this will help you see the real man behind the mask. Keep your head up! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aggiemae 739 Posted January 2, 2017 Maybe you two need some time away from each other. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App If by "some time" you mean forever. Any man who hits a woman is not worthy of her. No second chances. No forgivness. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pvechiola 195 Posted January 2, 2017 My gastric sleeve was 11/7/16 and I wish nobody gets divorce after this surgery. I thought I would be one of the Lucky ones that wouldn't. That I had a supportive husband who loved me and would never do anything to jepordize Our relationship. After 5 years of being married luckily with no kids I'm on the verge of a divorce. Maybe you get more courage while losing weight and you value yourself more . But I realized that I can't let my husband treat me Any way he wants. He got drunk tonight on New Year's Eve and after 5 hours of spending time with his brother and niece I told him let's go to bed tell them good night ( at 5 am). It got him so mad that he brought up things from 6 years ago while we were dating and called me a *****. I got mad and called him an alcoholic like his dad who abandoned him and he got even more mad. I threatened him with divorce and he was about to leave then I realized I didn't want to throw everything away for him being drunk and begged him to stay. He pushed me against the wall, slapped me and would keep pushing me off. His strength beat me and he finally left and went with his drunk brother to his moms house. No matter what I realized I can't let any man treat me this way and even before he left I told him he would regret this.' But no matter what I can't forgive him. My mom has always told me never to let any man put his hands on me so no matter what I can't forgive him. I'm glad I have the confidence to know that I don't deserve this but it sucks that I'm a stastistic about to be divorced. Again it sucks and I hope nobody ever goes through this. But just know that this surgery can make a lot of things change and only God knows what's best for us and why things happen I've got alot of experience in abusive relationships, if a man hits you once he will do it again and again. Remember when God closes one door another one opens, think of yourself as very special because you can start over, that's being lucky, not spending time with a man who puts his hands on you. You're very lucky most women never get out. Best wishes on your journey, you're gonna have a blast. Sent from my 0PM92 using the BariatricPal App Don't just document with pictures of bruises and injuries, also call the police, if you have to hide a cell phone somewhere safe so you can get to it without him causing more problems that is a great idea, also counseling and anger management rarely work. I really will be praying for your safety and so that whatever your decision is you make the right choice for you.You are a strong lady.No one ever has the right to hit you,alcohol or not.Once it starts it won't stop.Unless he gets major help.Protect yourself emotionally and physically.Document if he left marks. Sent from my 0PM92 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fredbear 397 Posted January 2, 2017 People (men or women) who hit or throw things are not worth knowing, let alone be married to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JaneWR 1 Posted January 3, 2017 Well, best you have decided to get divorced after the first time he hit you. For others it takes many, many assaults and a lot of abuse before they have their fill. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lema 236 Posted January 3, 2017 Words hurt too. Just because you haven't raised your hand on someone, it does not mean you are not at wrong or a bully too. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mo_vsgdreamer13 19 Posted January 3, 2017 I'm so sorry about your situation. You deserve much better that that.. have you thought of reaching out to a Domestic violence counselor for support through this time. Sent from my SM-G925T using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites