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Surgery is 12-27 and I am so nervous..help

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harmony5001    70

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I am so nervous about my upcoming bypass on 12/27. My husband is supportive, and he loves me and thinks I am doing the right thing. I guess I'm looking for more validation that I am doing the right thing for me and my family. I'm in tears for the first time during this journey because I'm scared of failing, scared of my future as a bypass patient, but even more scared of being morbidly obese for the rest of my life. I'm just looking for a pep talk, some words of encouragement from someone who understands the struggle. Thanks for listening ????

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James Marusek    5,244

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It is common to feel fear before a major operation. It is perfectly normal. I had RNY gastric bypass surgery over 3 years ago and it is a totally different experience than dieting. After surgery I lost my hunger - hunger that was constantly, continually gnawing on my bones. I found that it was not difficult to lose weight when I had no hunger driving me. So good luck on your upcoming surgery and check back with us when you are on the other side.

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smyleetn    55

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@@harmony5001 i was a mess leading up to my surgery. Particularly the two days before. I was crying all the time. I'm a single mom and was worried about a lot of things. Almost bailed but truly glad I didn't. Coming out of surgery was difficult for me for a couple of days but other then that it's been really good. Very blessed and lucky.

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harmony5001    70

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It is common to feel fear before a major operation. It is perfectly normal. I had RNY gastric bypass surgery over 3 years ago and it is a totally different experience than dieting. After surgery I lost my hunger - hunger that was constantly, continually gnawing on my bones. I found that it was not difficult to lose weight when I had no hunger driving me. So good luck on your upcoming surgery and check back with us when you are on the other side.

Thank you James☺

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harmony5001    70

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@@harmony5001 i was a mess leading up to my surgery. Particularly the two days before. I was crying all the time. I'm a single mom and was worried about a lot of things. Almost bailed but truly glad I didn't. Coming out of surgery was difficult for me for a couple of days but other then that it's been really good. Very blessed and lucky.

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Thanks for relating @smyleetn.

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FDclerical    318

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I am so nervous about my upcoming bypass on 12/27. My husband is supportive, and he loves me and thinks I am doing the right thing. I guess I'm looking for more validation that I am doing the right thing for me and my family. I'm in tears for the first time during this journey because I'm scared of failing, scared of my future as a bypass patient, but even more scared of being morbidly obese for the rest of my life. I'm just looking for a pep talk, some words of encouragement from someone who understands the struggle. Thanks for listening ????

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Hey surgery twin ! I hear you I was going through the same thoughts and feelings as well. Seeing as our procedure is one day away all I can say is pray on it and try to stay positive. Keep up with the support groups and staying accountable it helps a lot !!! Feel free to add me surgery buddy !!!

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SharBear617    146

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@harmony5001...just breathe...keep reminding yourself we are always much stronger then we sometimes give ourselves credit for...and taking this step to get back in control of YOUR future, takes a lot of courage, so pat yourself on the back for having that courage.

I'm just past 6 months post rny, and have zero regrets. Life will get better and better for you; you just have to be willing to allow it to be, and saying yes to this path is a big, courageous step. Good luck, and look forward to 2017 putting you back in control!

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Nicetomeetyou 82    41

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I know your feeling. I just had surgery on 12/23/16. I have been home two days. I wondered if I made a mistake. The answer is no. This is what I want. I am learning my pouch and it took about 24 hours for my pain control, but now I am doing ok at paying clothes attention to what I eat.

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smlegrant    6

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Think about how bad you want to reach goals, think about the outcome. I was never nervous about mine, shoot it was my 3rd surgery of 2016 (1for ulnar neuropathy in elbow w/ carpel tunnel, the other was cataract) so I reminded myself what my goals were & had surgery on 12/20. I was a bit nauseous a couple days afterward but as of yesterday no nausea. I hv lost 17lbs since Tuesday& I am following Drs. Orders. You will do great! If you believe in the power of prayer, pray for peace. Can't wait to hear abt your progress.

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harmony5001    70

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Think about how bad you want to reach goals, think about the outcome. I was never nervous about mine, shoot it was my 3rd surgery of 2016 (1for ulnar neuropathy in elbow w/ carpel tunnel, the other was cataract) so I reminded myself what my goals were & had surgery on 12/20. I was a bit nauseous a couple days afterward but as of yesterday no nausea. I hv lost 17lbs since Tuesday& I am following Drs. Orders. You will do great! If you believe in the power of prayer, pray for peace. Can't wait to hear abt your progress.

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Thank you @@smlegrant thank you for this, my outlook today is so much better. I'm excited and can't wait to start the next phase of the journey.

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Odie    249

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I had gastric bypass in 2014. I had to stay one night in the hospital because I was diabetic and had high blood pressure. I had no problems with the surgery and did not have any pain medication or need any. I had a 4 hour drive home from the hospital and except for gas, I was fine!! And I was 62 at the time!! You will be great! Good luck!

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sandokat    9

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I hope everything went well for you! Sometimes what we imagine could happen is worse than the reality. Here is to your new journey! I have mine on the 4th so I share your fears too. Let us know how it all went!

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