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Next Wednesday is surgery day and Im getting Anxiety like no other... My life is already Anxiety filled since i lost my daughter almost 17yrs ago and it was just after Christmas when she passed. So the surgery i will be having soon is just bringing up more anxiety and im kn medication!... It's not the actual surgery I'm afraid of or my new life after it's being put under.... How have other's coped with this fear?

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Honestly, even though I'm only 25, I've already gone through a handful of surgeries in my life. Not fun! I will tell you that EVERY time I have surgery, I start to think to myself, "What if I don't wake up? What if something goes wrong?" I think that's a perfectly normal fear to have.

When I expressed this fear about my surgery tomorrow, my dear husband reminded me of this: These are trained professionals. They are there to make sure we get through surgery safely. That is literally their job, and they've done it countless times. They KNOW what they are doing.

Hopefully remembering that helps you. Post again when it's almost your date and I'll keep you in my prayers!

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Honestly, even though I'm only 25, I've already gone through a handful of surgeries in my life. Not fun! I will tell you that EVERY time I have surgery, I start to think to myself, "What if I don't wake up? What if something goes wrong?" I think that's a perfectly normal fear to have.

When I expressed this fear about my surgery tomorrow, my dear husband reminded me of this: These are trained professionals. They are there to make sure we get through surgery safely. That is literally their job, and they've done it countless times. They KNOW what they are doing.

Hopefully remembering that helps you. Post again when it's almost your date and I'll keep you in my prayers!

Thank you so much for these words... It does help me to know these are Normal feelings when you feel alone... Im 37 and have never had surgery well besides when i was 14 for tonsil and adnoids lol

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Good morning let me start by saying I'm so sorry for your loss I can't begin to imagine that pain ;(. ..as for your anxiety I'm living that myself and my date isn't until January 25th. I have talked to my Dr about the extreme anxiety and was prescribed meds to help but I was also taught how to do some deep breathing and other "self help" exercises. I am also attending counseling to continue preparing myself and hopefully overcome at least some of this anxiety. That's also why I joined this group. ..support. ..maybe the most important tool of all. ..hearing and talking to people that truly understand what you're going through. ..thoughts are with you. .God Bless

Becca

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My first surgery was a few years ago to have my gall bladder removed and my fears were identical. I cried sitting in my bed in pre-op and the nurse and staff were all very kind in comforting me. I was clear I had never been put to sleep so I had those natural fears and even worried if I would be allergic to anesthesia. I was reassured they are prepared for all things possible, including that. I came out of anesthesia with both my gall bladder and sleeve surgery like a champ. I have faith you will be fine!

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Hi Morningangel, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 11 years ago, it's still difficult. My surgery is January 4th and I am excited and also very anxious. I feel the same too, I'm afraid I won't wake up. I have every confidence in my surgeon, I know I'm making the right choice. I've even chosen to write letters to my daughter and the man who means everything to me now and made me want to live, just in case so I can tell them how I feel. We'll all do great! Sending blessings & prayers, keep us posted. Happy holidays...it's going to be a great new year!

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When I start have anxiety I learned a few things to help get through it, usually their are signs/ triggers that sets it in motion, learning to recognize them helps, for me it is that I am in fear and my mind is focused on it and I don't have control. That is my lie " I don't have control " I have written on paper quote that inspire me or scripture that speaks opposite of what I'm believing. I slow down "usually hide in bathrooms" pull the paper out, I always keep it with me. I read slowly and think about the words and who I am, the positive. If I need to cry I cry, embrace were you are in your journey. You are a strong confident person who has so much to offer this world and the world deserve YOU! Most people around me does not know I have the paper with me, it is just one tool that helps me. Sorry for your loss. Loss of a loved one is a deep hole in our hearts. When we Celebrate their life it makes bridges over that hole that allows us to move forward. They are a part of our journey. I'm sure your daughter would be so proud of you for this step you are taking to get healthy. I wish you peace and joy on your journey morningangle79.

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I got sleeved 10/21/16. Sorry to hear about your loss. I was so anxious when it came time for my surgery even though they rescheduled it twice. I almost cancelled it myself every time! But then it finally came time to do it and I did it! I have been through many surgeries and get bad anxiety but think of the outcome and that's what gets me through!

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