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@@reree6898 Well one can say what they want.... doesn't make it true. It's hard to believe he doesn't. What does your gut say......

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I think he probably is seeing someone by now. I'm trying to keep positive and focus on the future and a new beginning with my life. The divorce became final this week.

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Sorry this is not really totally weight loss related but I have no real other outlet for this. Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary, or rather what should be my anniversary. It is a day I should be celebrating with my husband. But that joy and celebration was stolen from me by the person who promised he would never leave. Five months ago on what I thought was a normal Friday I went to work and my husband was taking our two younger kids to spend the day with their older sister. Well after he acted like everything was perfectly normal he came home from dropping off the kids and packed up everything of his from the house, he took half of the little bit of money we had and I got a text that said I'm sorry this isn't working for me anymore, I'm moving out. We had not been fighting, things had been fine or so I thought.

I try really hard to keep a happy face on for the kids but I am still grieving the loss of my marriage so much. When I first had surgery he was very supportive but it seemed as I got smaller he became more and more withdrawn. Things really felt like they shifted when I became smaller then him. He is a husky guy but has never been obese though. Thankfully I have never been really an emotional eater so through all of this I have still continued to lose weight and keep up with my goals but it is so hard.

I guess I don't really have a major point to this thread. I'm not really looking for sympathy or anything, just needed somewhere to vent for a minute. I don't have any real outlet.

It's the perfect place to vent, I've been reading alot about husbands not being able to handle it after the surgery is done. I'm currently not married or even in a relationship, maybe after a time to reflect he will feel better, sometimes you need to be alone to realize what you want in life I myself don't understand why a husband would leave it's just like having your appendix or your gallbladder removed. It's also a health issue to prevent co-morbidities in our lives. I don't understand men at all that's why I stay single. Just sending prayers your way, remember when one door closes god opens another we never even know what's on the other one.

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Cheers to new beginnings. **Lifts Protein shake in the air**

Focus on your own health and the well being of your children. If he comes to his senses, good for him. If he doesn't, the loss was never yours.

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