Checking In

[JamieLogical 8,727]

It's been ages since I've been on the forums! I wanted to check in and let you all know that I am still alive. Life got CRAZY since October or so. Finally sold my house... bought a new condo... meandering my way through the divorce process with my husband.... I am really hoping things settle down after the Holidays. I have been working non-stop on making my condo livable since I moved in. It was filthy and disgusting. I've been cleaning, painting every room, replacing all the fixtures, and repairing/replacing everything that was broken. Haven't been able to keep up with my running since October-ish. Really hoping to get back into that after the first of the year as I begin training for my April half marathon.

Hope all of you are well!!!

PS: Thank God for my sleeve! With my schedule being so busy and erratic, plus all of the stress, I know I would have gained like 20 pounds in the past 3 months without my sleeve! It's definitely helping keep things in check until I can get back into a normal routine again!

[504chic 53]

Sorry to hear about the divorce. But hopefully you are in a better head space. Was the divorce in the making prior to surgery or did things change after divorce? I'm asking because I have heard a lot about homes and marriages falling apart after a person have surgery. I have heard the men get insecure and think women are dressing to seductive.

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[JamieLogical 8,727]

Sorry to hear about the divorce. But hopefully you are in a better head space. Was the divorce in the making prior to surgery or did things change after divorce? I'm asking because I have heard a lot about homes and marriages falling apart after a person have surgery. I have heard the men get insecure and think women are dressing to seductive.

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I had my surgery a little over two years ago (September 2014) and the separation/divorce stuff started back in May (2016). The separation was entirely my idea and decision. I wouldn't say that the surgery necessarily caused it, but I think it highlighted some of the fundamental differences in us. I am continually striving for self-improvement.. I am not content to be stuck in a rut. My husband was very content in his rut. I think maybe the surgery emphasized the differences in our outlooks on life.

My husband summed it up pretty well in one of our discussions after we separated. I have always enjoyed MMORPGs... they are a type of video game where you play a character that explores a world, learns crafts, fights monsters, gains levels, makes allies, and completes quests. They are very open-ended and there is a ton of room for improving your character through various styles of game-play. You set your own goals and work towards them.

He always liked linear games with a clearly defined ending that you can "win". Apparently, after we got married and settled, he felt he had "won" and didn't have to play the game anymore. Whereas, I am always striving to learn new things, explore, and grow. We are just different people. My surgery and subsequent weight loss were just strong examples of my determination to improve myself.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

check in and let you all know that I am still alive

@@JamieLogical

Peak a boo!!!

i see you!!

where did you go???? sob sob

i was very worried about you

but i got over it!! LOL

I understand being busy problems being dealt with - hard times

next time your disappearance might happen

please contact your "old" friend or 911 !!

already have some gray hairs sob sob

i'm sure your running and life will get back to normal sooner than later

good for you that you didn't gain ie 20 lbs these past months

always had faith in you!!!

maintenance is hard under the best of circumstances

now with additional problems??!!

sounds like you have all your ducs in one row

things are moving in the right direction

Happy New Year 2017

may it bring health, happiness and joy

kathy

[JamieLogical 8,727]

I really am fully back on track now. Just finally finished the last project on my new condo at 10:00 last night. So now there is just cleaning and unpacking to do, which I can do in small doses. All the bit painting and construction-type stuff is out of the way now. (Side note: if you are ever thinking about replacing all of the doors in your home, don't!)

I'm back at work today and my divorce should be finalized tomorrow, so time for things to all settle back down. I planned out my training schedule for my half marathon in April. I will need to start it Jan. 23, but hoping to at least get some short runs in between now and then to get my endurance back up to where it needs to be to start training.