Do you tell others? Do you feel embarrassed or ashamed?

[Ar_U30 5]

I'm keeping my whole thing a secret. Not because I'm ashamed or embarrassed, but most people even, even close friends have become extremely judgmental. I am in no position to explain my decision to no one, therefore, easiest way to go about is not mentioning it at all.

I am doing it for my one well-being and No one elses.

I've always been active, but I've developed diabetes, pcos and hormonal imbalance, imagine explaining to people why you can't loose weight even with all the workout you do.

Me, myself and I are the only ones in charge of this beautiful body that God had put in this world. Therefore there's no explaining to do to no one, but me!.

You need to be at peace with your self.

You're doing it for you, not to please the world.

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I can imagine because my partner has pcos and a failed WLS and she is very active. So active that she injured her knee and had to have surgery.

That's part of the reason I'm doing this. I'm scared to be active and injure my joints which are already weak.

I agree, this is a decision for me, and I don't really care what most of my peers think. But more than embarrassment I do fear judgement, misunderstanding, and losing friends.

But then again I think that the people who would hold WLS against me probably already hold my obesity against me and probably shouldn't be my friends anyway.

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Juniper,

I too had ACL tear back when I was 230lbs. Had knee surgery lost about 40 lbs in 3 months.

After that it has been just a battle to get everything under control.

I've too struggled with sinical comments about my weight and references about when I was thinner... people don't check themselves before pointing fingers and becoming judges of your body and weight.

I left that all behind. Although it bothers me at times, I've moved on, got my surgery done and hope to get back to the streets and start running and playing soccer.

If I'm content with me and I accept my struggles and work hard to fix my body, I don't need nor accept anyone's comments. Who the hell are they to comment about my well being???

Keep it going...

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[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,444]

@@JuniperBug, I hope you can hate the packaging a little less. She's how the vibrant, engaged person you are gets around during the course of the day. You don't need me to tell you that there are reasons for the packaging. Ready or not, she is part of you and, for that reason, deserving of respect and love. Love her always because she is the one who will give birth to her replacement.

(I'll tell you now that, when you lose enough weight so that it really shows and the people you have chosen not to tell about surgery ask, say no more than your decision to eat better and exercise. That's the absolute truth -- so easy because it leaves you having to remember nothing.)

Edited December 20, 2016 by WLSResources/ClothingExch

[JuniperBug 15]

@@JuniperBug, I hope you can hate the packaging a little less. She's how the vibrant, engaged person you are gets around during the course of the day. You don't need me to tell you that there are reasons for the packaging. Ready or not, she is part of you and, for that reason, deserving of respect and love. Love her always because she is the one who will give birth to her replacement.

Wow that was so poetic and beautiful. Thank you so much. I'm truly touched.

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[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

I didn't tell people because I don't care about their opinions. Telling people invites them to comment and I don't care. No one lives my life but me.

Healthy fat people are a ticking time bomb. They are healthy until they aren't anymore and then they tank fast.