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I told a few people in my family and my mom has a big mouth and told my aunts (who weren't supportive at all). I then choose to tell some close friends and my best friend was super supportive (because she's had VSG so she knows what I'm going through) the others either didn't care or are expecting me to fail. I don't plan on telling anyone else because it's none of their business, and I don't want anyone's opinion on something they know nothing about:)

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The only person I told was my mom, and if I didn't have to travel 2 hours away for the surgery I would not have told anyone. 10 months post op and still she is the only one who knows:-)

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I only told my close family and two of my best friends!

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I told a few people in my family and my mom has a big mouth and told my aunts (who weren't supportive at all). I then choose to tell some close friends and my best friend was super supportive (because she's had VSG so she knows what I'm going through) the others either didn't care or are expecting me to fail. I don't plan on telling anyone else because it's none of their business, and I don't want anyone's opinion on something they know nothing about:)

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People expecting me to fail is why I don't want to say a word. Because even I expect myself to fail. I can't have anyone squashing the sliver of hope I have.

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I had surgery in August of 2015 and to this date the only ones who know about it are my doctors, husband, and parents (who are incredibly supportive). It's a personal matter I chose to keep private. When I'm asked how I lost so much weight I tell them it's from biking, tracking my meals on MyFitnessPal, and making better choices, which is the truth (just not the full truth). I'm very at peace with this decision.

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I told a few people in my family and my mom has a big mouth and told my aunts (who weren't supportive at all). I then choose to tell some close friends and my best friend was super supportive (because she's had VSG so she knows what I'm going through) the others either didn't care or are expecting me to fail. I don't plan on telling anyone else because it's none of their business, and I don't want anyone's opinion on something they know nothing about:)

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People expecting me to fail is why I don't want to say a word. Because even I expect myself to fail. I can't have anyone squashing the sliver of hope I have.
Exactly, I had an aunt ask me about it and of course she knew someone who had wls and the whole time she was talking to me the tone of her voice was condescending and she was trying to tell me what I can and can't do, so I'm just keeping it to myself now because I don't want people thinking they're entitled to an opinion about wanting to get healthy.

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I told a few people in my family and my mom has a big mouth and told my aunts (who weren't supportive at all). I then choose to tell some close friends and my best friend was super supportive (because she's had VSG so she knows what I'm going through) the others either didn't care or are expecting me to fail. I don't plan on telling anyone else because it's none of their business, and I don't want anyone's opinion on something they know nothing about:)

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People expecting me to fail is why I don't want to say a word. Because even I expect myself to fail. I can't have anyone squashing the sliver of hope I have.

Please don't expect to fail because you will. Expect to lose weight, feel better, and get healthy and you will. It takes work on our part, but it is the best thing I've done for me. You can be successful!

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I went to Mexico and my husband and kids knew and two close friends and mother-in law. We tried to keep from my father- in law because he blows up about everything. But by day 2 he hadn't seen me, they told him. So by time I come home everyone in town knew, people in town, at church ask how I was feeling so I just went with it. If I go back for plastic I'll just get a ad in the paper and announce it. I don't regret going to Mexico.

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I went to Mexico and my husband and kids knew and two close friends and mother-in law. We tried to keep from my father- in law because he blows up about everything. But by day 2 he hadn't seen me, they told him. So by time I come home everyone in town knew, people in town, at church ask how I was feeling so I just went with it. If I go back for plastic I'll just get a ad in the paper and announce it. I don't regret going to Mexico.

lol at ad in the paper ????????????

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I am not keeping it "secret" but, like all my private medical information I am not telling anyone who doesn't need to know.

My husband and two friends before surgery and last week my assistant because she keeps buying me fancy coffee drinks to have with the 20 pounds of baked goods she brings into the office every day between Thanksgiving and New Years. Yesterday I told my beautician because I needed to have micro current tx to plump the collagen in my cheeks.

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Work thinks it's a hiatal hernia.

I did have hospital hernia repair when I had my sleeve surgery and what I told people who asked. And because I work at the hospital it's also what my surgeon wrote on the white board.

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Only my husband knows. People are too critical and I don't care for anyone's negativity.

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I've told my parents and my cousin. I plan on telling people at work I had my gallbladder removed. The scares are the same and I'm following with having to watch my diet even more now because of it

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You might day hernia or ulcer instead in case you need your gallbladder out later. It's common after surgery...

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