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I had my one month follow up with my surgeon today and it upset me. Their scale says I gained 4 pounds.

I know I haven't gained anything, in fact I've lost weight consistently since having my surgery. Their scale has been out of whack since the first time I'd ever stepped on it.

On my home digital scale before my 2 week pre-op diet I was 470 pounds. One week after my surgery I was down to 420 on my home scale. That very same day I had my one week post-op appointment at the surgeon's office and his scale said I weighed 408 pounds. That's a 12 pound difference between my scale and theirs in the same day. I knew their scale was off. When I got home my scale still said I was 420.

So today, 3 weeks later I go back for my one month appointment and their scale says I weigh 412.

They say I gained 4 pounds since my last appointment 3 weeks earlier.

I told them no I didn't, and their scale has always been off.

When I got home I weighed myself with my clothes and shoes still on, just like I was dressed an hour earlier at their office and at home I was 405.

When I weighed myself nude a few minutes later I was 397.

When I go back in early February not only am I bringing my home scale with me to show them, but I may even get weighed in my underwear and t-shirt.

I felt so ashamed that after all the work I've done by eating right and exercising by their insistence that I gained 4 pounds. I've been working so hard. I've gone down 8 sizes in pants since October 26th when I started my pre-op diet. Even though according to MY scale at home I've gone down 72 pounds, their statement that in their opinion I gained 4 pounds has gotten in my craw and it's made me feel upset. I know I shouldn't feel this way but I do.

Arggghhh.

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It sucks when you know you're right, and they are convinced they are too. You can take your scale, but I have two thoughts to offer. One, it may lose its calibration from being jostled during the trip, and that could just further entrench their opinion that they are right. Two, no matter what you do, a lot of people refuse to be convinced that they were in the wrong.

I'd just let it go, and I write that as someone who has a boatload of righteous indignation when I know I'm right and the other guy isn't. The important thing is that YOU know you're losing weight. Unless they're going to make you take some sort of pills, or charge you extra, they really can't do anything to you, right?

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Thanks Bill. I needed that bit of right headed thinking. The experience today just put my head in a weird space. That's why I posted what I did. Thanks again!

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@@RussT,

I am much the same way and have been since the beginning of this journey in March. I always wear running shorts and a t-shirt when I have to weigh at the doctor. In fact, I have gotten the exact same running shorts and t-shirt in smaller sizes as I have gone along. And I obsess, too, but I have to always remind myself that they really don't give a crap. They never have. They type the number in the computer and that's the end of it. My disappointment all along has been that they don't make a bigger deal of my success than they do. But, I'm one of hundreds of patients that they try to pass through that place as fast as they can.

Cut yourself some slack. You're doing great. Let your success be your inspiration. (And I promise that I am trying to practice what I preach here!!)

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@@RussT What part of Joisey are you in? I am just across the border, about 30 miles into the free zone of PA.

We're pretty close in size and surgery date too. I had mine Oct 11.

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I know this isn't the point of your post but, GREAT JOB!!! You have made amazing progress nonetheless

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