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I have younger kids and 2 of them have autism. My routine has been different pre-op because of me not eating normally. One of my kids are very nervous acting. I told them mommy will be hurt for a little while and I won't be able to do much. He keeps worrying and telling therapist mom is going to hurt herself. Any better way to explain it.

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I have a child with autism and two with ADHD the way I explained it was mommy is having a dr do surgery so I can be healthier and do more with you guys then what I do now. I might be alittle sore but it won't last long then things will go back to normal but we are all gunna try to eat healthier.

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Thank you, it is a little harder for one of my autism kids. The other doesn't seem to be bothered. I think the hardest thing will be keeping them from wanting to be on me. She is sensory seeking and loves running into people. My other little boy is very nervous. Plus dad is having surgery on the 29th as well. We have older kids to help out but don't want them to obviously get upset.

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I told my kids I was going to the hospital to get my stomach fixed.

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I have 6 kids with Down syndrome, three of them have Autism. Only two can really understand whats up. However, I had breast cancer 2 years ago so they're all kind of "used" to me being down for a couple of days. All I told mine was "Mom is going to have surgery to fix her tummy." That's it. I didn't say anything about "hurt" or "pain", because that would freak my kids out. I have one "crasher" who loves to crash into me. I wore my corset thing outside of my clothes the first couple of days home. That helped her remember she could not crash into me. I did show my two with the most understanding that I have small incisions. (one of them, the girl, saw all my breast reconstruction wounds, plus has had major liver surgery so this was nothing to her. Look up liver transplant incisions and that is what hers looked like.) I just say things very matter of factly, don't describe anything that doesn't need to be described.

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