Husband says he doesn't like skinny women...WTH!

[Dknal2 1,066]

Lol, I should do just that. I'm excited about this journey ahead. Can't wait to start healing. Gas pain is awful but it's getting better.

Wonderful news...Thank you for sharing your update. It really helps those of us who are trying to get where you are. Do some "Internet" window shopping while your healing....Pick out a bad dress at Neiman Marcus..and imagine yourself in it in a few months...when you reach that goal!..Buy it????Congratulations!

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[Yardsleever 81]

Hi everyone... I'm still alive,lol. I had my sleeve done yesterday. It was a rough day 1 with the gas pain and nausea. However , today I feell a lot better.... still have some gas pain but I'm burping a lot now. . I am telling myself this is temporary and in 6 months I'm sure I will say this was a great decision.

Glad your surgery went well.

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[10stackzz 184]

Be encouraged!...Walk for the betterment of your health. You have made a big change in your life and it's all for the good. You will be just fine...it will be a few bumps in the road while your headed to success...Take it all in stride. Get well soon!

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[Dknal2 1,066]

Thank you so much.

Hi everyone... I'm still alive,lol. I had my sleeve done yesterday. It was a rough day 1 with the gas pain and nausea. However , today I feell a lot better.... still have some gas pain but I'm burping a lot now. . I am telling myself this is temporary and in 6 months I'm sure I will say this was a great decision.

Glad your surgery went well.

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[Dknal2 1,066]

Thank you. I am very sore this morning and I been coughing up a lot of mucus. But I'm feeling better. Just trying to stay positive and embrace this change in my life

Be encouraged!...Walk for the betterment of your health. You have made a big change in your life and it's all for the good. You will be just fine...it will be a few bumps in the road while your headed to success...Take it all in stride. Get well soon!

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[Raymia 565]

Congratulations @dknal2 I'm so happy for you!!!

[Dknal2 1,066]

Thank you. I am still in a daze honestly. I woke up to a coughing spell and felt like I was dying. But I'm ok. Hard to try and get liquids in but I'm trying. Belly really sore but it will get better

Congratulations @dknal2 I'm so happy for you!!!

[Gypsywoman 13]

You are a beautiful woman I can't wait too see the results of your hard work!! Just like getting yourself healthy is hard work making a marriage work can be hard. Do what you can and work your hardest so that if things don't work out you can be secure in knowing you gave it your all!! Super happy for you and can't wait for your transformation!! The butterfly is waking from her cocoon!

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Edited December 7, 2016 by Gypsywoman

[Dknal2 1,066]

Gypsy that was so seeet and thank you. I have to figure out how to post pics on here. I can't wait for like 3 months from now to see some results. Thank you for the encouragement

You are a beautiful woman I can't wait too see the results of your hard work!! Just like getting yourself healthy is hard work making a marriage work can be hard. Do what you can and work your hardest so that if things don't work out you can be secure in knowing you gave it your all!! Super happy for you and can't wait for your transformation!! The butterfly is waking from her cocoon!

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[10stackzz 184]

I hope today is a little bit better for you....Push through!

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[Dknal2 1,066]

It is better... I am walking better and the gas is going away but not completely gone. No nausea thank god. Just sore still. Need the rest of this gas to go and I will be in there. Thanks for checking on me. So sweet.

I hope today is a little bit better for you....Push through!

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[olivejuice 32]

I know a lot of people personally that have had bariatric surgery and most of their spouses/significant others have been UNSUPPORTIVE, and that's just so sad!

Speaking with them it all boiled down to the same thing: INSECURITY.

'Oh he/she's going to get all skinny and then find someone else and leave me'.

You're exactly right, does he really want an overweight, unhealthy wife, who let's face it, is basically a ticking time bomb to have a heart attack, stroke, or diabetic coma?

Or does he want you happy and HEALTHY and in his life for 10-20-30 more years with him?

I'll tell you what - if I would ever 'get skinny and leave my fiancé' .... well that just shows what a POS I AM!

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Edited December 8, 2016 by olivejuice

[Dknal2 1,066]

I agree. I would never leave him because of male attention because I been with him big n small to big again so that's just his insecurities. My son went with me and he was very supportive and he stayed by my side the whole time . So I'm happy for that .

I know a lot of people personally that have had bariatric surgery and most of their spouses/significant others have been UNSUPPORTIVE, and that's just so sad!

Speaking with them it all boiled down to the same thing: INSECURITY.

'Oh he/she's going to get all skinny and then find someone else and leave me'.

You're exactly right, does he really want an overweight, unhealthy wife, who let's face it, is basically a ticking time bomb to have a heart attack, stroke, or diabetic coma?

Or does he want you happy and HEALTHY and in his life for 10-20-30 more years with him?

I'll tell you what - if I would ever 'get skinny and leave my fiancé' .... well that just shows what a POS I AM!

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[Chel1 104]

Unfortunately you don't have your husband's support and you know this. It happens often when the spouse is not secure in themselves. I would love to tell you everything will be fine but we believe for the best and pray for the strength to get through the worst. This is your life and whether we are single or in a relationship we are the only ones who can live it. Surround yourself with a good support group, people who will cheer you on and be there to hold you up during tough moments. Stop focusing on others negative opinions and focus on self.

It's not just with surgery and being thin, it's about you becoming the best healthiest you that you can be. I have seen people who start new ventures to have a better life face oppositions from their spouses...it can be something simple like they started going to church more, got a new job. etc.

The issue is not with you losing weight the issue is within himself and that is NOT your issue. You can't make someone be what you want them to be you can only work on self.

Best of luck in the process...either way it goes in the end you will be alright.

[Dknal2 1,066]

Thank you @ Chel1. I have been sleeved now and he doesn't say much about it. But that's okay because I get a lot of support from this online forum from great people like yourself. So, as you said , I will def be okay either way. I serve a God who has never left me and I don't see him leaving me now. Take care and thanks again.

Unfortunately you don't have your husband's support and you know this. It happens often when the spouse is not secure in themselves. I would love to tell you everything will be fine but we believe for the best and pray for the strength to get through the worst. This is your life and whether we are single or in a relationship we are the only ones who can live it. Surround yourself with a good support group, people who will cheer you on and be there to hold you up during tough moments. Stop focusing on others negative opinions and focus on self.

It's not just with surgery and being thin, it's about you becoming the best healthiest you that you can be. I have seen people who start new ventures to have a better life face oppositions from their spouses...it can be something simple like they started going to church more, got a new job. etc.

The issue is not with you losing weight the issue is within himself and that is NOT your issue. You can't make someone be what you want them to be you can only work on self.

Best of luck in the process...either way it goes in the end you will be alright.