Newbie needing support

[Jazzzyjay 222]

I've been lurking on here for a couple of months. I feel like I know everyone. With each story I am so inspired. I love how uplifting and supportive everyone is. Soooo with that being said HELLO friends!! I have learned so much just from reading your posts.

I have done 6 months of the supervised diet and now I am just waiting on my insurance to approve. I am so excited to have this opportunity. At the same time I am lacking support. I have recently ( 3 weeks ago) decided to leave my husband of 6 years and get a protection order against him. He was extremely controlling and possessive to the point where I have had no one...absolutely no one in my life for the past 3 years. I have a young son age 11 ( not his ) who I will need to care for after surgery. How do I prepare my life for this change alone? What are things I can do in preparation to make recovery a little easier on myself? I feel so alone. Although leaving him was the best decision I could have made for me and my son. I am adjusting to life alone. I guess thats why I stayed for as long as I did. The fear of being alone.. I spend my evenings reading through all your posts until I fall asleep just to keep from crying. Tonight is an especially hard night. I have been having a hard time eating as well so I pretty much have just been drinking Water and broth with unflavored Protein Powder. I have lost 15 pounds these last 3 weeks due to all the stress. And being that I am on the lower side with my BMI my NUT said I can only loose 4 more pounds or I will no longer qualify. I feel like I should be stronger than this and not let this divorce get the best of me. I have worked very hard for this surgery and I don't want anything to jeopardize it. Each day is blessing that I am out of that abusive marriage. And I just want to feel like my old self again. Happy, joyous and free! Thank you for listening friends.

[Travelher 915]

You can do this. You've already made a big step for your health by leaving an abusive relationship. That is huge!!!! Time to continue to focus and take care of yourself. You are going through a grieving process and that's ok. Just don't do it at the expense of your health. You are not alone! I'm glad this board has been a way to cope and manage. You may want to find a professional to talk to and help you through this transition.

[thunder32 65]

2017 the year of jazzzyjay!!!!

Getting rid of control freak easy way of losing dead weight...jazzzyjay.....jazzzyjay............jazzzyjay

thunder32

[Jazzzyjay 222]

Thank you both for your support! @@Travelher - a grieving process....that makes so much sense now and completely turned my thought process around. Thank you so much! Yes I already have a appointment with a therapist lined up. @@thunder32 - you made me smile. YES 2017 will be my year!! Thank you!!

[Mindy78 372]

I've been lurking on here for a couple of months. I feel like I know everyone. With each story I am so inspired. I love how uplifting and supportive everyone is. Soooo with that being said HELLO friends!! I have learned so much just from reading your posts.

I have done 6 months of the supervised diet and now I am just waiting on my insurance to approve. I am so excited to have this opportunity. At the same time I am lacking support. I have recently ( 3 weeks ago) decided to leave my husband of 6 years and get a protection order against him. He was extremely controlling and possessive to the point where I have had no one...absolutely no one in my life for the past 3 years. I have a young son age 11 ( not his ) who I will need to care for after surgery. How do I prepare my life for this change alone? What are things I can do in preparation to make recovery a little easier on myself? I feel so alone. Although leaving him was the best decision I could have made for me and my son. I am adjusting to life alone. I guess thats why I stayed for as long as I did. The fear of being alone.. I spend my evenings reading through all your posts until I fall asleep just to keep from crying. Tonight is an especially hard night. I have been having a hard time eating as well so I pretty much have just been drinking Water and broth with unflavored Protein powder. I have lost 15 pounds these last 3 weeks due to all the stress. And being that I am on the lower side with my BMI my NUT said I can only loose 4 more pounds or I will no longer qualify. I feel like I should be stronger than this and not let this divorce get the best of me. I have worked very hard for this surgery and I don't want anything to jeopardize it. Each day is blessing that I am out of that abusive marriage. And I just want to feel like my old self again. Happy, joyous and free! Thank you for listening friends.

It gets better. I walked away from a similar situation 7 years ago. Took me 5 years to even file a divorce because I didn't want him knowing where I lived. I grew in that time and learned to love this beautiful person I am. This January I started this journey. Surgery 10-3. There is lots of support here. I just wanted you to know it gets oh so much better.

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[Jazzzyjay 222]

I've been lurking on here for a couple of months. I feel like I know everyone. With each story I am so inspired. I love how uplifting and supportive everyone is. Soooo with that being said HELLO friends!! I have learned so much just from reading your posts.

I have done 6 months of the supervised diet and now I am just waiting on my insurance to approve. I am so excited to have this opportunity. At the same time I am lacking support. I have recently ( 3 weeks ago) decided to leave my husband of 6 years and get a protection order against him. He was extremely controlling and possessive to the point where I have had no one...absolutely no one in my life for the past 3 years. I have a young son age 11 ( not his ) who I will need to care for after surgery. How do I prepare my life for this change alone? What are things I can do in preparation to make recovery a little easier on myself? I feel so alone. Although leaving him was the best decision I could have made for me and my son. I am adjusting to life alone. I guess thats why I stayed for as long as I did. The fear of being alone.. I spend my evenings reading through all your posts until I fall asleep just to keep from crying. Tonight is an especially hard night. I have been having a hard time eating as well so I pretty much have just been drinking Water and broth with unflavored Protein powder. I have lost 15 pounds these last 3 weeks due to all the stress. And being that I am on the lower side with my BMI my NUT said I can only loose 4 more pounds or I will no longer qualify. I feel like I should be stronger than this and not let this divorce get the best of me. I have worked very hard for this surgery and I don't want anything to jeopardize it. Each day is blessing that I am out of that abusive marriage. And I just want to feel like my old self again. Happy, joyous and free! Thank you for listening friends.

It gets better. I walked away from a similar situation 7 years ago. Took me 5 years to even file a divorce because I didn't want him knowing where I lived. I grew in that time and learned to love this beautiful person I am. This January I started this journey. Surgery 10-3. There is lots of support here. I just wanted you to know it gets oh so much better.

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Thanks a bunch. I feel so good to know I'm not alone. I feel foolish for posting my personal business but I was so lost at that moment. I'm looking forward to my beautiful new life!!

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