Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Mood swings / Anger after surgery



Recommended Posts

I just had my gastric bypass surgery on Nov 21st 2016 and I suffered from depression before my surgery. I have continued taking my anti depressants under my doctors orders. I have an appointment with him on monday and I will discuss further with him. I know Im only a few days out but what I was wondering from those who have had the surgery is if feelings of anger and bitterness toward others is normal? My lovely wife has been so good in helping me and looking after me but I still snap at her and kind of act like a d**k at some points becaus of mood swings which makes me feel worse. As I write this Im pretty upset and was just wondering if others have dealt with anger and emotional outbursts and if so how long they will last? Is it different in men than it is in women? With it being Thanksgiving and all I feel angry and bitter toward everyone eating nice food and being happy while Im laid up in bed sipping Water and Protein shakes.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using the BariatricPal App

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This won't answer all of your questions and I'm still pre-op myself but I have heard that after surgery (and really during any big weight loss phase) you will experience hormone dumping. Your fat stores hormones, and as your fat cells shrink as you lose weight, those hormones come out and can affect your mood and personality.

I've also heard that a lot of people go through a grieving process immediately after surgery (and some people even feel like they regret their surgery) because they are still healing and get upset that people around them can just eat whatever food without thinking about it. So that's pretty normal. Once you really start seeing and feeling the weight loss effects of your surgery, you probably will get past this grieving/regret/anger stage. (But still talk to your doctor).

One thing I would say though, in regard to your last comment about it being Thanksgiving and everyone but you eating yummy food, is that you need to keep in mind that you had this surgery, not your family and friends. You can't blame them for eating "normal." Your normal is different now.

Hopefully your mood will even out soon, but try to let your wife know that you can't help your mood. I'm sure she will understand. And then make it up to her in a few weeks when you're feeling better. Happy wife happy life, as they say!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

As she said. The studies out there say that hormones are stored in our fat. So as we lose they are released and it can play havoc with our emotions!! The food issues are for REAL!! But...with that being said it will get better too. Hang on and just try to explain to your wife that all will be good. food issues work on our minds hard!!! Our WLS gives us the tools to lose the weight but it definitely doesn't fix our minds!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

As you lose weight, the chemicals and hormones that were stored in your fat cells are being released into your body. These will pass through your kidneys and are expelled in your urine. But they can generate a flush of hormones during the weight loss phase. They should simmer down once you transition into maintenance. It is important to meet your daily Fluid requirements, because it take fluids to flush these hormones from your system.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So far I have had the crying while talking with people and just today I blew up on my Team Lead. She didn't deserve it, it just came out. The past two days I have been angry and I don't know why. I can't wait for the mood swings to go away.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Lizette1122

      Anyone had the TORe procedure? How did it go? How much weight did you loose? 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LadyVeteran1

      Sleeve surgery is on April 14th.  I am counting the days!!  Can't wait!
      · 3 replies
      1. Brookie2shoes

        Me too girl!! Are you in the full liquid diet right now? It’s sooooo hard!

      2. LadyVeteran1

        Not yet. I was told I only have to do 24 hours of a liquid diet. But I have my pre-op tomorrow so I’m going to confirm if I need to do longer.

      3. buildabetteranna

        Your so close now! It's gonna be great :) Wishing you a speedy recovery and looking forward to seeing how it goes!

    • buildabetteranna

      Down 33 lbs and slightly stalled, but I'm gonna reevaluate and push through. I started back to work last week after 2 years of being disabled due to mental health as well as my weight. It's a great job and I'm just so happy to have this opportunity at a second chance at life. Hope everyone is having their best journey ❤️ Together, we got this!
      · 2 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Great work Anna! Keep it up 😁

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 1 reply
      1. stevieoriole

        Am feeling this right now. My surgery date is 4/1. Sign the consent tomorrow. I feel like I overloaded myself with too much info, too many opinions. Got to the point where I was wondering if I should do this. Then I thought of my reasons for taking this step and that settled my nerves. Still get moments of doubt but am striving forward. Am just going to follow my book from the surgeon. Joined this because I was told by my dietician that I should do this for support

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×