Waves of emotions

[Siyaa Ela 59]

Hi lovely people

I just wanna ask if somebody experiences here waves of emotions. Sometimes like being very excited for the surgery. And then become scared. And then excited again and then again scared.

I tend to be excited when i really think about when im in surgery and its done and over. And scared what people will say and their comments how "dangerous" the surgery is.

Im kinda OK with being it a dangerous surgery. Every surgery is dangerous for god sakes. Im over being negative. Maybe im to easy with this whole process. But i refuse to be negative and be afraid of complications.

Shit happens you know. If I die I die. If i have pain so be it. Nothing good comes easy anyway.

Do you guys have similiar emotions. In the beginning when i was thinking about this i felt really alone and depressed. But now i think about it and talk more about it. I really am excited even if i get horrible gas pains bec

Because becoming skinny and healthy is what i wanted all my entire life.

Please do comment if you feel like it. Only good vibes please. Life and sleeves already are hard enough

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[magnificent2015 34]

Hi lovely people

I just wanna ask if somebody experiences here waves of emotions. Sometimes like being very excited for the surgery. And then become scared. And then excited again and then again scared.

I tend to be excited when i really think about when im in surgery and its done and over. And scared what people will say and their comments how "dangerous" the surgery is.

Im kinda OK with being it a dangerous surgery. Every surgery is dangerous for god sakes. Im over being negative. Maybe im to easy with this whole process. But i refuse to be negative and be afraid of complications.

**** happens you know. If I die I die. If i have pain so be it. Nothing good comes easy anyway.

Do you guys have similiar emotions. In the beginning when i was thinking about this i felt really alone and depressed. But now i think about it and talk more about it. I really am excited even if i get horrible gas pains bec

Because becoming skinny and healthy is what i wanted all my entire life.

Please do comment if you feel like it. Only good vibes please. Life and sleeves already are hard enough

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I'm meeting with my surgeon today, I was approved for surgery 2 weeks ago and I know once I leave this appointment the next step will be setting a date and I'm super like excited, anxious, and nervous all at once. I started this process almost 2 years ago in February, I've literally tried to jump through hoops, finally switched insurances and was approved right away.

I feel like since it took so long and for so long since I thought it was never going to happen and now I'm super restless.

So seeing your post pretty much confirms for me that it's pretty normal and standard to feel this way. lol. You're not the only one lol

[MissJDVSG 129]

I get nervous sometimes because I've never had surgery before. I've noticed that I'm getting a bit more nervous as I move closer and closer toward having surgery.

I make the nervousness go away by realizing that the surgery does have risks, but I wouldn't categorize it as "dangerous". You usually have to get some testing done to make sure that you will do okay during surgery. The complication rate is also very low. These things make me feel better, especially since I feel like out of control obesity is much more dangerous.

But I am also more and more excited. I get more excited to know that next summer, I might be 80-100 pounds lighter. I get excited that maybe some of my long term back pain might go away with less weight. I get excited to try running again (which I loved as a kid).

It's normal to switch back and forth between emotions, though. And if you're worried about negative comments, keep your surgery to yourself. That's my plan (for the most part, I've told a few people--3 friends and my boyfriend who I live with, and my parents). I don't need anyone else's opinion or negativity.

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[magnificent2015 34]

I get nervous sometimes because I've never had surgery before. I've noticed that I'm getting a bit more nervous as I move closer and closer toward having surgery.

I make the nervousness go away by realizing that the surgery does have risks, but I wouldn't categorize it as "dangerous". You usually have to get some testing done to make sure that you will do okay during surgery. The complication rate is also very low. These things make me feel better, especially since I feel like out of control obesity is much more dangerous.

But I am also more and more excited. I get more excited to know that next summer, I might be 80-100 pounds lighter. I get excited that maybe some of my long term back pain might go away with less weight. I get excited to try running again (which I loved as a kid).

It's normal to switch back and forth between emotions, though. And if you're worried about negative comments, keep your surgery to yourself. That's my plan (for the most part, I've told a few people--3 friends and my boyfriend who I live with, and my parents). I don't need anyone else's opinion or negativity.

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I second this. The thought of being anywhere from 75-100 pounds lighter by next summer usually takes the cake. My emotions are constantly changing. I've decided that even though I've told my family about my choice, that's as far as I'm going with it because of the lack of support.

[_Kate_ 2,224]

I think most people have those high's and low's before surgery, it's natural and be prepared for it after surgery too. I dont think I had a low before the surgery however I did panic going into the pre-op room, only because I have dreadful veins and it takes an ages to get a canula in (they gave me gas before doing it as I told them that was the bit I was dreading).

I dont regret it for a second and should have done it years ago! You will be fine. Come here and talk to others, vent, chat, support others and ask for support. You have this!

You can do it !!!

[Newbeva 73]

I'm just starting the process to get approved for the sleeve and I'm already going through the waves of emotion. Some days I'm super excited and can't quit to have the surgery. Other days I question myself and wonder of I'm doing the right thing. I've told a handful of people but don't plan to take it much further than that until I get closer to my goals.

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[Siyaa Ela 59]

Thank you guys for your replies.

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[Hokie-Amber 5]

Hey Everyone...

I am so anxious. I have 3 more of my required calls with a nurse before my insurance will do the waiver for my surgery. March 8th is my graduation date from the program, never missed a call because that would only push my graduation back. This is where I get upset.. I get worried that I will finish the program, and then I will be told I cannot have the surgery. Then I will feel like I need to live in a cave for the remainder of my days. My friends all say that they would never do that because I need it so badly. But I worry that it will be pushed back and I will get depressed and hate myself more then I do now. So I am trying to get things all wrapped up before I graduate so there is no hold up on the end of the insurance. UGH. I am glad to know that there are others who worry as well. I cry a lot more the closer I get because I cannot imagine my life not being fat. So its a happy thing and then its like a WHAT IF THEY SAY NO thing.

[highfunctioningfatman 2,675]

I am weird. I did my research. I made my decision. I wasn't nervous or excited. It was just something that needed to be done and I was completely at peace with it.

[_Kate_ 2,224]

I am weird. I did my research. I made my decision. I wasn't nervous or excited. It was just something that needed to be done and I was completely at peace with it.

Same for me really. Sometimes I feel a bit of a fake as things have gone so well. I had a problem for a few months this year but well over it now and heading the right way again.

[Siyaa Ela 59]

I am weird. I did my research. I made my decision. I wasn't nervous or excited. It was just something that needed to be done and I was completely at peace with it.

Same for me really. Sometimes I feel a bit of a fake as things have gone so well. I had a problem for a few months this year but well over it now and heading the right way again.

What kind of problems?

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[magnificent2015 34]

Hey Everyone...

I am so anxious. I have 3 more of my required calls with a nurse before my insurance will do the waiver for my surgery. March 8th is my graduation date from the program, never missed a call because that would only push my graduation back. This is where I get upset.. I get worried that I will finish the program, and then I will be told I cannot have the surgery. Then I will feel like I need to live in a cave for the remainder of my days. My friends all say that they would never do that because I need it so badly. But I worry that it will be pushed back and I will get depressed and hate myself more then I do now. So I am trying to get things all wrapped up before I graduate so there is no hold up on the end of the insurance. UGH. I am glad to know that there are others who worry as well. I cry a lot more the closer I get because I cannot imagine my life not being fat. So its a happy thing and then its like a WHAT IF THEY SAY NO thing.

As someone who was denied once before because of my insurance claiming one thing, and it being another. Then having to withdraw my submission once again because although they claimed my requirements were 6 months, and not 12 (it still was 12). I want to just say to remain hopeful & don't get to caught up in the funk of being denied (Hopefully you won't but if it does). No matter what I knew I wanted this surgery and no matter how much my insurance and people around me tried to deter me I stayed hopeful. I was recently approved and am now just waiting for a date. After almost 2 years of being given the run around. I'm literally so close to it happening.

My point is:

Don't let it get you down as much as you want to let it. Be mad, be sad, or whatever but just keep your eyes on the prize and keep it pushing.

[Hokie-Amber 5]

All of a sudden today was the day that I got motivated to make things happen. I contacted UVA about my surgery date even though I am not done with my Healthy Incites program. They said that after I finish (March 8th, 2017), the approval comes from my insurance since I fulfilled my obligation. Then I go to UVA for my pre-surgery appt and they run some tests and a month later I will have my surgery. They have penciled me in for Mid March for my pre surgery appt. And we are moving. I just want to get this over and moving towards a more positive life.. more hopeful. I am so glad I joined this site because I needed this. My nurse told me this is vital for my success and I strongly encourage it for anyone else who is starting this journey.

[SusieSouth 51]

I'm self-pay, so I did my research, settled on a doctor, and set my own date. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out for not having gone through the many months of classes and pre-requirements. I wonder if I'm ready enough to do this, if I know enough. A lot of self doubt, basically. Other times I'm glad to just get it over with, and not think too much more.

I'm two days away from surgery and it's been a rollercoaster of emotions. I worry, I'm excited, I feel brave, I am super nervous but I'm keeping it all together. A new life, where I look and feel better, where I can do so much more than I am able to is the goal, and I'm not letting my fears get in the way of that.

[livvsmum 2,369]

I think that is totally normal! It's a huge life change, plus a medical procedure. That's a lot to process. I remember a couple days before my surgery having a complete emotional meltdown because I think I realized my coping mechanism - stress eating - was going to be basically taken away and it was a huge realization.

Everything worked out amazingly though, as I'm sure it will for you too! Good luck!