My Father is against surgery

[Siyaa Ela 59]

If you don't want to deal with negativity, don't tell people who you know don't support you. Especially in the pre op and early post op stages it seems like having a solid support group around you is supremely important (so I've read, I'm still pre-op). It might be too late for your dad (since it seems like you might have told him) but keep that in mind for other people in your life.

I'm 27 and I told my parents only as a FYI. In these kinds of situations you need to worry about your goals and happiness! ❤️

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Hi thanks for your message. Im not able right now to message you back. Have some issues with my message box. I want to let you know that Im just starting in the process so i dont know if I'm much of a help to you. So yeah.

Just wanted to let you know where I stand in this journey

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[Siyaa Ela 59]

I haven't told my Dad either. I'm super close with him and I know he will worry to death and I feel guilty because I don't want any added stress to him. My Mom passed 4 years ago and she would be the one to talk to him about it. (She would always explain better than I would for some reason) I'm going to tell him when I get my surgery date and after the Holidays. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck!

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Yes my dad to. My mom actually is going to tell him. I know that's sounds weird. But she is the only one who can maybe talk some sense in him

Weird. But unfortunatly my dad is a piece of work himself. Communication is his weakest power.

I think you are doing the right thing here. If I could I would do the same but i still live with my parents so he is going to know about it.

Good luck to you to and sorry for your loss.

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[LizCapeCod 29]

I just posted this to someone whose husband wasn't supporting the surgery: Get the book "Weight Loss Surgery for Dummies" and have him read it. That's what got my husband on-board.

Your father probably doesn't know how advanced (and safe) WLS has become.

[livvsmum 2,369]

In the end you may not be able to "convince" him and that's ok. You are an adult and are making a decision for your healthy based on the research that you have done.

[Seevan 32]

U can't change your daddy mine. Most of my family is small. They don't know what it's like to in this illness of over eating. What's going on in his mind is not what's going on in your mind. I made the decision to have my surgery. I listen to my family's opinions , but buck stops with me... love U. U're all you got. I'm 30lbs down since September. Do U girl....

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