crazylady1209 6 Posted November 18, 2016 (edited) When I had my first appointment in May, I was going to keep this secret about looking into having surgery only my husband and children would know. I than said this is stupid I will tell my family and some of my closest of friends, I guess I should have kept the secret. You would think my choice to do this is affecting there life style. Surgery scheduled November 30th and cannot wait, so many emotions. Sent from my SM-N920P using the BariatricPal App Edited November 18, 2016 by crazylady1209 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pup 217 Posted November 18, 2016 Everybody seems to think you're asking their opinion when you tell them. Lol. Good luck with your journey. I had gastric bypass 6 months ago...I wear a size 7/8 now and I am sooooo happy! Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crazylady1209 6 Posted November 18, 2016 Everybody seems to think you're asking their opinion when you tell them. Lol. Good luck with your journey. I had gastric bypass 6 months ago...I wear a size 7/8 now and I am sooooo happy! Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App Thank you! Sent from my SM-N920P using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HuneComz 103 Posted November 18, 2016 I have luckily been greeted with almost all supportive responses. My sister-in-law was the only one with a negative response and it was to my husband in privacy, not to me. She made the comment that she couldn't support what I was doing. Now...she is also 100# soaking wet so I am sure she can't possibly understand. I know what she said came out of a place of concern, not menace, however it still hurt my feelings. I have gone through the entire process saying not another word about my journey to her or my brother (even though my brother was quite supportive). I wanted to be spiteful and have the surgery (scheduled for 11/29) and by the time I see them at Christmas, hopefully be feeling better and starting to see some loss and be like "surprise!" Now that I am closing in on surgery day, I have decided to tell them about it, if for nothing else, to have the extra prayers as I undergo the surgery and begin this new road on my journey. I feel that everyone is entitled to their opinion and I respect that. I have NEVER lived my life based on what other people liked or thought, and I certainly am not going to start now. It took a lot of soul-searching for me to get to the place where I admitted I needed to do this because I can't lose the weight on my own and I am ready for my new & improved self. Good luck to you and remember - we are doing this for US and not for anyone else. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Siyaa Ela 59 Posted November 18, 2016 Stay strong. This is about you and not them. Don't let people talk you down. She doesn't know your everyday struggle with being obese. And the hurdles you go through every day. People are entitled to mind their own business! It's strange how she could go behind your back and being so judgemental. Im sorry i see that as jealousy and not 'concern'. Obviously she would wanted you to stay fat so she could be the skinny on. Now you are on board and she feels threatend by you. Go get it girl. And don't let anybody decide what's best for you. Hope you are well. Sent from my SM-G928F using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Raymia 565 Posted November 18, 2016 To tell or not to Tell that is the question..... I've told my fiancé, sister and of course my son, then my best friend and 2 co workers. I will let others know after its done, my parents are just to judgmental and I'm 34 I have to do what's best for me. YOLO When it's done I'll tell my parents but I already know what their reaction will be.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Siyaa Ela 59 Posted November 18, 2016 To tell or not to Tell that is the question..... I've told my fiancé, sister and of course my son, then my best friend and 2 co workers. I will let others know after its done, my parents are just to judgmental and I'm 34 I have to do what's best for me. YOLO When it's done I'll tell my parents but I already know what their reaction will be.... I have the same with my dad. I didn't tell him yet. He is going to say that i "just" need to eat healthy and exercise. As if i never tried that ???? So yeah. All in good time???? Sent from my SM-G928F using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Raymia 565 Posted November 18, 2016 Same here @Siyaa Ela I was going to get the gastric bypass 5 years ago and I listen to my parents and nothing really changed so now I'm here... So yes I'm done!!! Regardless how anyone feels I need to do what makes me happy and I want my outside to match my inside : ) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
