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Met with my doctor and he told me he is clearing for surgery and was calling the surgeon to tell him. Not even a couple of hours later I got a call from the clinic stating that my surgery is cancelled because my doctor does not feel right with me doing it what hurts the most is that he shook my hand and told me good luck on my surgery on Monday. Now they want to push it back by 3 months. Lol as I sit here crying I just can't wrap my head around it. I guess it is what it is. The clinic said they are talking with the surgeon tomorrow since ivr quit my job that caused me to pass out due to an extreme anxiety attack. I'm hopeless now. I give up on this journey and next year I won't be able to come up with all the money. This isn't a outta part more like a who an I now because this surgery was my new start to bit be so disgusted with myself, to let the power of my rapists go because they are why I came to this place because I could never handle it. It was my chance to be able to love my daughter and run around with her at some point. Now I have to get into the gym extra hard and eat the diet plan and continue that way. Sorry for the lost post I'm on sleeping pills so it may sound like gibberish and I apologize

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I'm sorry this is happening to you!! I would push my DR for the reason he did this to you!! Hopefully it will all work out for you!! Again I'm sorry

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I'm sorry this is happening to you!! I would push my DR for the reason he did this to you!! Hopefully it will all work out for you!! Again I'm sorry

Thank you Because when I went and saw him he was concerned about my heart and everything cleared. So he was clearing me and as soon as I left he called them and said something totally different

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OMG. So sad to hear that. What is the reason for him not clearing you? If there is no health issue, I 'd go to Mexico, self-pay and be done. I just had my sleeve with Dr Ponce in Tijuana. He is awesome.

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OMG. So sad to hear that. What is the reason for him not clearing you? If there is no health issue, I 'd go to Mexico, self-pay and be done. I just had my sleeve with Dr Ponce in Tijuana. He is awesome.

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I passed out 3 weeks ago due to stress from job and I quit because it wasn't healthy but now they won't me out of work for 3 months to monitor me.

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@@hudjess, you've given more information in this thread than you did in yesterday's thread. You have been and are dealing with so much that gets you down. You said that you have anti-anxiety meds, but nothing about whether you're in therapy. If you don't have a good therapist, it seems that finding one is most important. Working with someone who is knowledgeable about anxiety and its triggers and sources will do so much for you. You'll be more comfortable inside your own skin, more available to your daughter, have better chances for following through after your surgery and just enjoy life more. I think those things should be priority now.

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@@hudjess, you've given more information in this thread than you did in yesterday's thread. You have been and are dealing with so much that gets you down. You said that you have anti-anxiety meds, but nothing about whether you're in therapy. If you don't have a good therapist, it seems that finding one is most important. Working with someone who is knowledgeable about anxiety and its triggers and sources will do so much for you. You'll be more comfortable inside your own skin, more available to your daughter, have better chances for following through after your surgery and just enjoy life more. I think those things should be priority now.

I see a therapist who thinks I am ready for surgery as well, I have been I have been on meds for over 6 months, I have been stable and then my boss got in my face and started pounding me and just kept going and going and I passed out because I couldn't take it anymore. This is not an all the time thing. I am stable, I am ready, I am mentally and emotionally prepared. But I guess I have no choice with waiting so I'm just taking it and accepting this hurdle as well. But I give up it's always one thing after another. I am officially done with trying to get the surgery. I quit my job which was my main stressor and it's not good enough

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I'm so sorry this is happening to you, i can't even imagine that happening. My thoughts and prayers are with you. And if you need to vent I'm here! I also hope every one else in this thread has a wonderful day!

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@@hudjess, I'm thinking of your well-being for the short term and the long term. If you believe that you're ready for surgery now, fine. It was only my thought that a few months more to regroup before surgery wouldn't be such a bad thing. (I get that the financial aspects may change because you left your job, but I wasn't thinking in terms of money.)

I expect that your therapist wrote a letter in support of surgery a while ago. Maybe another letter to refute your PCP might make a difference. I also expect that the surgery practice set you up with someone else for the psych eval and you "passed." Just throwing this out -- maybe a revisit with that person would make a difference. Another possibility is to ask the surgeon what would make the difference -- what would get you back in the OR schedule. Asking may get you some concrete info that you can work with.

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