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hudjess    95

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My pcp won't clear me for surgery that is on the 21st I did my pre-op with him and he said everything was okay. I had a really bad anxiety attack about 3 weeks ago and passed out. We adjusted my meds and he said I was good to go. Now he's saying he won't clear me. I'm meeting with him today. I don't even know what to say to him to explain that I'm really ready for surgery and I'm taking my meds. Ugh. Has anyone death with this before? Surgery is literally 5 days away. He wrote a doctor's note for me for my job to reduce my hours and they couldn't accommodate so I was let go. I'm getting everything under control and don't feel so much anxiety. I am just bawling my eyes out right now. :( help

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Butterflywarrior    241

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Your job not accommodating and letting you go after drs documentation soubds illegal and potential ADA lawsuit!!

I'm sure your doctor is just concerned that you are in a good mental state to face major surgery and overwhelming change...

Do you have a therapist or psychiatrist. If so, it might help if your therapist in particular speak with your GP

I signed releases si my gp, surgeon and psych ppl cab talk. My surgeon, even though their psychologist cleared me wanted letters from my psychiatrist and therapist showing tgey supported the surgery and my mental health was stable bc I have bipolar l and PTSD.

They had no problems with this and it cleared the air. I knew I was ready but they have to feel you are ready and when you breakdown, gethispitalizedhospitalized, have difficult dx,etc... they worry..

Loosing your job is a serious stressor too... and the grounds you lost it on sound wrong to me...

Be upfront with your GP, tell him how you feel, tgat your meds are helping and allow him to talk to ur mental health docs...

That can go a long ways

Worse case scenario... your surgery gets delayed....

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hudjess    95

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Your job not accommodating and letting you go after drs documentation soubds illegal and potential ADA lawsuit!!

I'm sure your doctor is just concerned that you are in a good mental state to face major surgery and overwhelming change...

Do you have a therapist or psychiatrist. If so, it might help if your therapist in particular speak with your GP

I signed releases si my gp, surgeon and psych ppl cab talk. My surgeon, even though their psychologist cleared me wanted letters from my psychiatrist and therapist showing tgey supported the surgery and my mental health was stable bc I have bipolar l and PTSD.

They had no problems with this and it cleared the air. I knew I was ready but they have to feel you are ready and when you breakdown, gethispitalizedhospitalized, have difficult dx,etc... they worry..

Loosing your job is a serious stressor too... and the grounds you lost it on sound wrong to me...

Be upfront with your GP, tell him how you feel, tgat your meds are helping and allow him to talk to ur mental health docs...

That can go a long ways

Worse case scenario... your surgery gets delayed....

They have talked two psychiatrist have said the same thing and wrote letters on my behalf. I'm going to meet with him today so maybe we shall see if after we talk he clears me

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WLSResources/ClothingExch    3,444

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@@hudjess, I have anxiety to a far lesser degree than most. It arises now and then, not often, with some situations that are stressful so that I'd rather not deal with them. I've known a few people whose anxiety is more constant and deeper, but never have heard of passing out from it. @@Butterflywarrior 's note makes good sense. Your PCP isn't "against" you. I'm comfortable saying that he's concerned that you need a little more time before surgery. Surgery itself can be stressful.

Butterflywarrior's last line is solid. If you're like most BP users, you've had a significant weight problem for quite some time. Sure, you're set, but postponing surgery for a little while won't make much difference.

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hudjess    95

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@@hudjess, I have anxiety to a far lesser degree than most. It arises now and then, not often, with some situations that are stressful so that I'd rather not deal with them. I've known a few people whose anxiety is more constant and deeper, but never have heard of passing out from it. @@Butterflywarrior 's note makes good sense. Your PCP isn't "against" you. I'm comfortable saying that he's concerned that you need a little more time before surgery. Surgery itself can be stressful.

Butterflywarrior's last line is solid. If you're like most BP users, you've had a significant weight problem for quite some time. Sure, you're set, but postponing surgery for a little while won't make much difference.

I understand what you are both saying. But postponing it will mean I will be able to do it next year which I will pay a large sum out of pocket that I can't afford. I'm more than ready and one of the stresses was my job so my doctor wanted me to work part time and I lost my job because of it and I am happy because I haven't had an anxiety attack since, I went to a cardiologist who said its not my heart just anxiety so we changed the doses on my meds and I've been taking that new dose for about 3 weeks and I feel more in control than I ever had. I'm already in my 2 week diet and I'm so close. I don't want it postponed but when I talk to my doctor then I will know.

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kimberb    323

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My pcp won't clear me for surgery that is on the 21st I did my pre-op with him and he said everything was okay. I had a really bad anxiety attack about 3 weeks ago and passed out. We adjusted my meds and he said I was good to go. Now he's saying he won't clear me. I'm meeting with him today. I don't even know what to say to him to explain that I'm really ready for surgery and I'm taking my meds. Ugh. Has anyone death with this before? Surgery is literally 5 days away. He wrote a doctor's note for me for my job to reduce my hours and they couldn't accommodate so I was let go. I'm getting everything under control and don't feel so much anxiety. I am just bawling my eyes out right now. :( help

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I had my anxiety meds adjusted in Aug. I've had to wait 3 months to be sure I was stable at new dosage. Tomorrow I have a phone consult with psychologist and am hoping to be cleared for surgery.

I know how anxious you are to get your surgery . I was/am too. But you want to be in a stable mental place. The changes after surgery are going to be a rollercoaster ride, emotionally and psycally. Your PCP is looking out for what is best for you.

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hudjess    95

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My pcp won't clear me for surgery that is on the 21st I did my pre-op with him and he said everything was okay. I had a really bad anxiety attack about 3 weeks ago and passed out. We adjusted my meds and he said I was good to go. Now he's saying he won't clear me. I'm meeting with him today. I don't even know what to say to him to explain that I'm really ready for surgery and I'm taking my meds. Ugh. Has anyone death with this before? Surgery is literally 5 days away. He wrote a doctor's note for me for my job to reduce my hours and they couldn't accommodate so I was let go. I'm getting everything under control and don't feel so much anxiety. I am just bawling my eyes out right now. :( help

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I had my anxiety meds adjusted in Aug. I've had to wait 3 months to be sure I was stable at new dosage. Tomorrow I have a phone consult with psychologist and am hoping to be cleared for surgery.

I know how anxious you are to get your surgery . I was/am too. But you want to be in a stable mental place. The changes after surgery are going to be a rollercoaster ride, emotionally and psycally. Your PCP is looking out for what is best for you.

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I understand that but this was only once it's not constant and my doctor told me he was still clearing me for surgery and today he all of a sudden changes his mind I guess I don't get it.

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Butterflywarrior    241

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My pcp won't clear me for surgery that is on the 21st I did my pre-op with him and he said everything was okay. I had a really bad anxiety attack about 3 weeks ago and passed out. We adjusted my meds and he said I was good to go. Now he's saying he won't clear me. I'm meeting with him today. I don't even know what to say to him to explain that I'm really ready for surgery and I'm taking my meds. Ugh. Has anyone death with this before? Surgery is literally 5 days away. He wrote a doctor's note for me for my job to reduce my hours and they couldn't accommodate so I was let go. I'm getting everything under control and don't feel so much anxiety. I am just bawling my eyes out right now. :( help

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I had my anxiety meds adjusted in Aug. I've had to wait 3 months to be sure I was stable at new dosage. Tomorrow I have a phone consult with psychologist and am hoping to be cleared for surgery.

I know how anxious you are to get your surgery . I was/am too. But you want to be in a stable mental place. The changes after surgery are going to be a rollercoaster ride, emotionally and psycally. Your PCP is looking out for what is best for you.

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I understand that but this was only once it's not constant and my doctor told me he was still clearing me for surgery and today he all of a sudden changes his mind I guess I don't get it.

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maybe when he said it, he was having a bad day... drs are human too.. glad it's working out for you

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