Does anyone regret having surgery?

[rolosmom7 740]

I thought so at certain points, but today is my 2 month surgiversary and I just hit 50 pounds lost. So definitely not!

[GinaCampbell 434]

I thought so at certain points, but today is my 2 month surgiversary and I just hit 50 pounds lost. So definitely not!

I have lost over 100lbs now but the health problems I have acquired post op means that I can't enjoy any benefits of being lighter.

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[rolosmom7 740]

I thought so at certain points, but today is my 2 month surgiversary and I just hit 50 pounds lost. So definitely not!

I have lost over 100lbs now but the health problems I have acquired post op means that I can't enjoy any benefits of being lighter.

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I'm sorry

Are they surgery related?

[GinaCampbell 434]

I am part of a bariatric group that started our seminars together. Out of the group before us, some a few weeks after and ourselves, there are ten of us who seriously regret having had our surgeries. My neighbour had a bypass a few years ago and she also regrets having done it.

I am six months out now so people will have to accept that this is not "buyer's remorse", simply a statement of fact.

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Can I ask what you regret specifically? Meaning, what aspect of life post surgery creates the biggest amount of regret? Is it the difficulty eating? I struggle because my life is all about food now. food and Water. Every minute I have to be eating or drinking something, or depriving myself of drinking something so I can eat something shortly. lol! I find that to be the unexpected biggest daily hurtle. I thought I would be fine with it, When I did my 16 months on a liquid diet I didn't struggle with it at all. I realize now that's because I always knew in the back of my head it wasn't permanent.

The list of specifics are too long to mention but I agree with you regarding the constant focus on eating and drinking.

I was discussing this with my dietician this week. The part of dieting that I disliked was having to focus on food constantly. And now I still have to think about exactly what I am going to eat and drink and when. I have alarms set on my phone to take all my Vitamins, to keep hydrated and to eat and drink.

I am malnourished, weak and dizzy. My GERD had worsened, I have had to have my PPI increased. I am losing my hair in big clumps and the hair that is left has broken off at the crown. My skin is hanging off my body and I have lost most of my muscle mass. My eyebrows are dropping out too.

But I'm not fat anymore, and to some people, that's all that matters.

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I thought so at certain points, but today is my 2 month surgiversary and I just hit 50 pounds lost. So definitely not!

I have lost over 100lbs now but the health problems I have acquired post op means that I can't enjoy any benefits of being lighter.

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I'm sorry

Are they surgery related?

Yes

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[rolosmom7 740]

I am part of a bariatric group that started our seminars together. Out of the group before us, some a few weeks after and ourselves, there are ten of us who seriously regret having had our surgeries. My neighbour had a bypass a few years ago and she also regrets having done it.

I am six months out now so people will have to accept that this is not "buyer's remorse", simply a statement of fact.

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Can I ask what you regret specifically? Meaning, what aspect of life post surgery creates the biggest amount of regret? Is it the difficulty eating? I struggle because my life is all about food now. food and Water. Every minute I have to be eating or drinking something, or depriving myself of drinking something so I can eat something shortly. lol! I find that to be the unexpected biggest daily hurtle. I thought I would be fine with it, When I did my 16 months on a liquid diet I didn't struggle with it at all. I realize now that's because I always knew in the back of my head it wasn't permanent.

The list of specifics are too long to mention but I agree with you regarding the constant focus on eating and drinking.

I was discussing this with my dietician this week. The part of dieting that I disliked was having to focus on food constantly. And now I still have to think about exactly what I am going to eat and drink and when. I have alarms set on my phone to take all my Vitamins, to keep hydrated and to eat and drink.

I am malnourished, weak and dizzy. My GERD had worsened, I have had to have my PPI increased. I am losing my hair in big clumps and the hair that is left has broken off at the crown. My skin is hanging off my body and I have lost most of my muscle mass. My eyebrows are dropping out too.

But I'm not fat anymore, and to some people, that's all that matters.

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I thought so at certain points, but today is my 2 month surgiversary and I just hit 50 pounds lost. So definitely not!

I have lost over 100lbs now but the health problems I have acquired post op means that I can't enjoy any benefits of being lighter.

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I'm sorry

Are they surgery related?

Yes

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I'm sorry. Hope it gets better for you!

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

The list of specifics are too long to mention but I agree with you regarding the constant focus on eating and drinking.

I was discussing this with my dietician this week. The part of dieting that I disliked was having to focus on food constantly. And now I still have to think about exactly what I am going to eat and drink and when. I have alarms set on my phone to take all my Vitamins, to keep hydrated and to eat and drink.

I am malnourished, weak and dizzy. My GERD had worsened, I have had to have my PPI increased. I am losing my hair in big clumps and the hair that is left has broken off at the crown. My skin is hanging off my body and I have lost most of my muscle mass. My eyebrows are dropping out too.

But I'm not fat anymore, and to some people, that's all that matters.

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Yes

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I have a very hard time dealing with people who only care that I've lost weight. To me it tells me that my value to them is only in my appearance.

I'm sorry to hear about all of your complications and struggles. I hope to be able to get my Protein intake to the right goals on a daily basis. Right now at 5 weeks I'm ALMOST there, but I fear for my hair. Good luck my friend, my heart is with you.

[cindylynne 1]

Why do you regret it? Is it because you can't eat what you want? If so, perhaps you were not in a good head space prior to surgery! Meaning you may not have had good reasons for going forward.

I had the VSG and I am grateful every day and I was the minute I woke up, no regrets

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[GinaCampbell 434]

Why do you regret it? Is it because you can't eat what you want? If so, perhaps you were not in a good head space prior to surgery! Meaning you may not have had good reasons for going forward.

I had the VSG and I am grateful every day and I was the minute I woke up, no regrets

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When you ask "Is it because you can't eat what you want?" , the answer is yes.

I want to follow my plan and eat Protein, vegetables and fruit.

I want to be healthy, to exercise and participate in life. Go to church, meet friends, see family

"If so, perhaps you were not in a good head space prior to surgery! Meaning you may not have had good reasons for going forward. "

This statement is so far from my reality that commenting would be futile.

You are happy with your decision. I am not.

But that does not mean that I did not research my decision, follow the advice from my team and my surgeons.

And even if your statement about my decision were true, that would not have any bearing on my current reality.

There is no going back from a vsg. I knew that I had made a mistake as soon as I came out of the actual procedure. And it has only been more and more confirmed.

The reasons why have been well documented here. And everyone said the same things to me over and over.

Just wait, you will feel better, you will love your sleeve, blah blah.

I am six months out, over 100lbs down and I still regret having done this to my body and my life.

Maybe one year out is the magic number or two years out.

Or maybe I will always regret it like my friends and neighbour does.

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[GinaCampbell 434]

The list of specifics are too long to mention but I agree with you regarding the constant focus on eating and drinking.

I was discussing this with my dietician this week. The part of dieting that I disliked was having to focus on food constantly. And now I still have to think about exactly what I am going to eat and drink and when. I have alarms set on my phone to take all my Vitamins, to keep hydrated and to eat and drink.

I am malnourished, weak and dizzy. My GERD had worsened, I have had to have my PPI increased. I am losing my hair in big clumps and the hair that is left has broken off at the crown. My skin is hanging off my body and I have lost most of my muscle mass. My eyebrows are dropping out too.

But I'm not fat anymore, and to some people, that's all that matters.

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Yes

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I have a very hard time dealing with people who only care that I've lost weight. To me it tells me that my value to them is only in my appearance.

I'm sorry to hear about all of your complications and struggles. I hope to be able to get my Protein intake to the right goals on a daily basis. Right now at 5 weeks I'm ALMOST there, but I fear for my hair. Good luck my friend, my heart is with you.

Yes! When everyone says look at all the weight loss etc. All I ask is "Do you think that I look healthy?"

And they all say no, that I look ill and pale and frail.

I wish you well. Try not to worry about your hair. My doctors tell me that there is little you can do to prevent the Hair loss. It either happens or it doesn't.

I have lost most all of my hair now.

Just try to stay hydrated and look after yourself!

God bless you!

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[ella37 455]

I regretted it for a solid week and a half. Like, actual "I really wish I could undo this" regret. Then I went into a stage of being okay but not happy with it. I also wasn't losing for a few weeks immediately after surgery so that did not help my frame of mind.

With every new food stage I felt better and more human, I'm counting down the days until I can have a piece of chicken or some ground turkey (2 more weeks!). I think the beginning is just hard, harder than a lot of us thought it would be.

@@GinaCampbell I know you've had your fair share of issues but from previous posts it doesn't sound like your surgical team was the best and you had some previous health problems. I'm not dismissing your issues, but make sure you tell the full story to someone who is contemplating surgery.

[laceemouse 631]

I did, quite a bit. In my 4th week I was miserable. Still in pain, unable to get in more than 400 calories a day, feeling like crap, depressed and felt like my life was ruined. That I was going to be one who never found a new normal. That lasted for almost a week. It was very difficult. I cried for 7 days straight. And then I had mashed potatoes. lol!

I was listening to every one yelling at me to only eat Protein and don't cheat or be weak and have carbs. But that serving of Mashed Potatoes made me feel NORMAL. Like a real human again. I felt nicely full, I got pink cheeks, I had about 600 calories in that day and my emotions calmed down. I realized...I'd been HUNGRY. I was crying and depressed because I was starving with such limited calories for that long. So I started throwing in some carbs back into my diet. And when I'm feeling down, guess what, I have some mashed potatoes. All the haters can go jump in a lake. lol! It made me feel like a normal human again and allowed me to get over my depression/starvation hump.

My surgeon says we need to have some carbs so we don't go into Keto (which has says is dangerous) He just recommends healthy whole grains like oatmeal. oatmeal makes me happy!

[Mamabear0003 8]

@@ella37 She isn't the only one who has had issues and people shouldn't assume that it is there fault cuz guess what I told my surgeon everything!!!! And I still have so many problems and issues and I have regretted it now for over 2 years!!!! I have actually told everyone NOT to have it done and my husband as well who had it 5 weeks after I did also tells people to really think about it he don't really regret it like I do for himself but he is wanting to talk out against bariatric surgery! Because when things go wrong they go REALLY REALLY WRONG

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[mslah103 16]

Only when I want to guzzle Water

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[ella37 455]

@@ella37 She isn't the only one who has had issues and people shouldn't assume that it is there fault cuz guess what I told my surgeon everything!!!! And I still have so many problems and issues and I have regretted it now for over 2 years!!!! I have actually told everyone NOT to have it done and my husband as well who had it 5 weeks after I did also tells people to really think about it he don't really regret it like I do for himself but he is wanting to talk out against bariatric surgery! Because when things go wrong they go REALLY REALLY WRONG

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Not sure when I said that she was the only one who had issues or that it was her fault? I happened to have made a similar post before I went into surgery that Gina responded to and then also read a VERY long thread she started here:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/374230-post-op-regrets-topics-not-popular/

When she responded to my post it really gave me great pause about moving forward with the surgery, but once I read through some of her other posts I realized that there was some information missing. All I was saying is that there are other things that can factor into regret of surgery, not sure why you took it so personally?

[Mamabear0003 8]

Tired of people always placing blame on the patient. People always assume I'm doing something wrong

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