Relationship issue

[asantiago 89]

Hello everyone

I had my first Gastric Bypass on December 2015. I have had a few complications but have faith everything will fall into place. I been married for 8years and now that I lost all the weight, my husband is changing towards me. At first he was happy I lost weight and now it's like whatever and he has been not himself. He supported me at first. I use to have big breast before my surgury and a hourglass body and decent behind( sorry to much information) and now I went from a size 14 to a size 2 and went 3 bra size down and flat behind. I am self conscious and feel like unattractive. I have become very shy in many ways. Is this normal? Or anyone else experience anything like me? I haven't been able to exercise like I was suppose to due to all the surgury I have had within 11 month but I want to start toning up. Is it possible to make some of my loss skin tighter? I feel like lost emotionally and physically. Please would appreciate any advice or suggestions.

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[pammieanne 269]

I've heard that weight loss surgery can be very hard on some relationships.... I'm sorry you're going through it.

Remind him that you are not only boobs and butts... that now you can do more things, and there are probably great positions you can get into that you couldn't before if you know what I mean *grin*

You need to talk to him and see what's wrong. Because I know that even if I do lose all of my boobs, my husband will still love me, and still be attracted to me. If he's acting like something is wrong, you need to find out what it is. Maybe he's feeling insecure because you're thinner now and more guys are looking at you, or he perceives you as being more attractive to other guys, and it's worrying him that you might leave him?

Whatever it is, the best way to get it solved is to get him to talk to you, and you talk to him about your worries.

Good luck

[asantiago 89]

Thank you so much for your advice. Yes I agree. I have been talking to him. I know I look so much younger than before and now a few times that I been with him, people junk he is my father. ????. I reassure him all the time that I am who I am and nothing will change. I will sit down with him one more time and see what happen. I do believe that he does hear people say a lot of positive things about me and may be worrying him. I do feel so much better after I lost weight. I feel healthier in many ways. I am so grateful for this support system we have. I appreciate all the advice and love to be there for you all as well. I was wondering maybe all my complications could be scaring him. I am going to have a nice talk with him and hope all goes well.

[#BirdDog 604]

While I don't have much advise in this category for you, I will say communication is very important. I wish the best for both of you in your relationship!

[asantiago 89]

Thank you. I hope it all works out.

[asantiago 89]

Hello everyone. I wanted to give a recent update since some of you wanted to be updated in my situation. I had a long talk with my husband. All he did was stay quiet most of the time and he said nothing is wrong. I don't feel that is correct. I decided to take it day by day since I just had major surgury on Nov 1st. I have to worry about getting better at this point. Will see how days go by and I will keep you posted. One day at a time for me !