TiredOfMyself 141 Posted November 15, 2016 (edited) This may sound harsh, it isn't meant to be. They didn't choose to have surgery, you did. This is your decision. They don't have to change the way they eat just because you want them too. Yes it is rude to rub it in your face but they can eat whatever they want. I would really sit back and think of these are the type of people you want to surround yourself with? I would hunker down, stay in my room and make a plan to move from my parents house. Edited November 15, 2016 by TiredOfMyself Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MFM008 44 Posted November 30, 2016 I'm lucky. Almost No one eats in front of me... Sent from my SGH-M919 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrookeTiffani 54 Posted December 1, 2016 I think you should find something to occupy your time while they eat. You can go for a walk, lookup healthy recipes. Whenever someone in my family wants to eat fast food or something I cannot have there is a major battle going on inside my head. "God that smells good, remember how it tastes? Just a bite won't hurt." Then you have sensibility saying, "No. You will make yourself sick. Do you want to be back up to 400 lbs? one bite will lead to more." So instead of listening to the argument I occupy my time. The definition of willpower is the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long term goals. Your family SHOULD be more supportive of you and your new lifestyle. does that mean they should change the way they want to eat? No, but they should respect that they shouldn't do it in front of you. I also live alone, so if I am spending time with them and they choose to eat something I would rather not be tempted with I go home. 1 em1 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
southbound 159 Posted December 1, 2016 I still cook the same food I did before. I still pick up takeout for my son and husband. I make a healthy choice or eat before I go. I am a picky picky eater so it's easier for me just to grab a stick of cheese with turkey and not eat the junk they want. Mind you, they eat deer meat and fish...we rarely buy meat. But they do like it fried. To me ...meat and cheese everyday is heaven...they are my favs! You had the surgery and even though you want them to eat better and make better choices, you can't force them. Use your tool...the head is the worst part of it...you can do this. Prove to them it works and that you can't be swayed. You got this!!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Jesus loves you!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vinasu 621 Posted December 2, 2016 Can you compromise? Are there goodies that you hate? I dislike anything with coffee, so we get my husband mocha ice cream, tiramisu, kalua candies, etc. I dislike pretzels and popcorn, so those are his salty Snacks. Maybe if your family is reasonable you can make this work for everyone. Sent from my SM-G925V using the BariatricPal App 1 em1 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pdallariva 57 Posted January 1, 2017 I feel your pain. However you will just stop thinking about those foods. You can teach yourself by eating there and see what happens. Not being mean but it's what I had to do. Also you seem like you need a better support system. Make sure to stay in touch on here. Lastly tell your family if they want it they can go get it when they are able to see while driving. Best of Luck!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mili 56 Posted January 1, 2017 Don't let them ruin your life, you have a goal and follow it . Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App 1 em1 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites