Dating After WLS

[Alva 21]

Good afternoon... Does anyone know about dating sites or meeting people sharing the same journey?

I've joined "normal" sites... But only to be disappointed.

40 single and looking... Need support

[ssflbelle 829]

Hope these help. LoveAfterWLS.com & http://www.wlsingles.com/

[katragina 33]

This is such a great topic. I've struggled with dating all my life. There is/was a particular guy I've been interested in for years. We have "met up for dinner" a few times. I know he likes me, but he couldn't get past the fat. I haven't told him about the surgery mostly because it's none of his business. What I struggle with is the fact that maybe now I will get attention from guys when I didn't before - and I am the same person as I was a week ago. With the guy that I currently like, I don't want be disappointed should actually decide to want to date me. My thing is if you didn't see me when I was fat, you don't deserve me. it's a huge struggle. I know this is not related to your question, so I apologize if I've taken it off track. But the whole dating thing - I hadn't considered it until I read this post!

[msfaybe 12]

This is a really good question ????

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[Alva 21]

This is such a great topic. I've struggled with dating all my life. There is/was a particular guy I've been interested in for years. We have "met up for dinner" a few times. I know he likes me, but he couldn't get past the fat. I haven't told him about the surgery mostly because it's none of his business. What I struggle with is the fact that maybe now I will get attention from guys when I didn't before - and I am the same person as I was a week ago. With the guy that I currently like, I don't want be disappointed should actually decide to want to date me. My thing is if you didn't see me when I was fat, you don't deserve me. it's a huge struggle. I know this is not related to your question, so I apologize if I've taken it off track. But the whole dating thing - I hadn't considered it until I read this post!

Good morning.. sorry for the late response.

I agree with you my philosophy has been if you didn't see me when I was a hundred and 20 pounds heavier you don't deserve me right now.

I guess that's why people say that one changes their ways after losing weight but as I have always struggled with weight and have seen the indifference of others at my highest weight it's easier to hold up that standard.

Especially with those I got the speech " I would totally make you my girlfriend of you weren't that big"

Oh..but I DO flaunt myself now

...in front of them...ok just a little...LOL

I notice the way men look at me now band I don't even acknowledge them, I guess it's a stand for my old self or it could be that I was just so used to being overlooked that I don't even care if they look my way.