Help!

[markiealex 5]

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

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[Waler 330]

At this point I would try to find myself a support group or a professional you can talk to. most of this game is changing the way we think, not just how we eat.

[Sergio_TX 15]

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

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I'd recommend you to write a love letter for yourself.

Be honest and write everything that you remember why you did it.

Why you doing this.

- Mine included the fact of being so embarrassing asking in the restaurant for a table instead of a booth ...

- My back pain, etc, Etc.

so, I hope that helps and try to keep you mind busy. Go out and walk! Make it confortable to your journey.

Good luck

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[Melsyboo 43]

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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[markiealex 5]

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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Edited October 18, 2016 by markiealex

[markiealex 5]

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

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I'd recommend you to write a love letter for yourself.

Be honest and write everything that you remember why you did it.

Why you doing this.

- Mine included the fact of being so embarrassing asking in the restaurant for a table instead of a booth ...

- My back pain, etc, Etc.

so, I hope that helps and try to keep you mind busy. Go out and walk! Make it confortable to your journey.

Good luck

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Thank you! I'll give it a try!

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[Melsyboo 43]

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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[blizair09 3,250]

I would echo some of the others and also suggest speaking to a professional. The biggest part of this journey, to me, is re-establishing your relationship with food. I used my six-month insurance-required pre-op diet to do that, and I am so glad that I did. Aside from the huge pre-op weight loss that I had, that diet program gave me the time to get my mind in the right place, and that has made all the difference in this post-op transition. (I say this more for the benefit of those reading who are pre-op. In your case, what's done is done and talking to a professional will be your best bet to playing catch up.)

Good luck!

[markiealex 5]

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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I'm pretty much doing this on my own. No one has real faith in me so it makes it harder. I have gotten great advice since I found this app

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I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

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They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

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I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

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I'm pretty much doing this on my own. No one has real faith in me so it makes it harder. I have gotten great advice since I found this app

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[Melsyboo 43]

Well you're not alone now this is a great place for support! We all want to see each other succeed!

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[markiealex 5]

Well you're not alone now this is a great place for support! We all want to see each other succeed!

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Thank you!!

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[wwoods 2]

Read, exercise and visit friends. Because if u eat wrong stuff, u will be so sick. I ate a little lasanga a week out of hospital. I hurt so bad I will never eat lasanga again. Don't eat wrong stuff. The pain and throwing up is not worth it.

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[markiealex 5]

Read, exercise and visit friends. Because if u eat wrong stuff, u will be so sick. I ate a little lasanga a week out of hospital. I hurt so bad I will never eat lasanga again. Don't eat wrong stuff. The pain and throwing up is not worth it.

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Thank you! It's hard cause like I said I'm alone. I don't have friends and really have no support

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

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I think what you are feeling is very common. If food has been your primary means of coping with stress then since you cannot use food to cope you may feel very uncomfortable.

Talking with a counselor or therapist is a great strategy. Attending support group meetings and participating on BariatricPal can also be helpful.

Also, you may want to consider Overeaters Anonymous. You can find meeting lists and other resources (like podcasts) online at OA.org.

In the meantime, see if you can find other things to do when you want to eat: take a walk, journal, color, call a friend, etc.

Focus on getting in your Protein and Fluid. Early out, I spent so much time sipping I really never has time to get hungry.

It will get better.

[busybeebug 415]

First of all, here's a virtual hug ????

I feel your pain. The early days right after surgery, I fought thoughts of what the hell did I just do. Water didn't sit well, couldn't drink any shakes, and had an unrelated infection. It got better.

I haven't really wanted to eat yet. I just know my sugar dropping so I need a few bites to keep me going.

I'm only 4 weeks out. I am 30 lbs down in that time which spurs me on. I felt better around the end of week 2.

See if you can find a local support group that can help.

Hugs,again and I hope you feel better soon