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mr1121

By mr1121, in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums

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mr1121    59

mr1121
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Hi all

I'm not a bypass I'm a sleever but my husband did the bypass. He has lost 240lbs in 13 months. I have watched him over the past year become so unhappy. He finally talked about what he was feeling the other day and it is really weighing on our marriage. He said he feels like a Frail old man. Has no muscle ton and no butt ( lol) but his diet is pizza and chicken parm. He is it a fruit or veggie eater before or after surgery so I know he is undernourished and does not take his Vitamins and depression meds on a daily basis. He doesn't want to lose anymore weight and he doesn't know how to stop it.

Has anyone reached their goal weight and been able to maintain it? If so, can you give me some pointers so I can help him? It is so bad that I check on him every hour if he is out of my sight because I fear the worst. I am tired of living like this and I know he is as well

However, he is a man and reallly doesn't talk much about it. I told him just a bit ago that he needs to go talk to a professional about the mental side of his weight loss.

Please help

Michelle Rose

Spring TX 77373

Email: mr110726@gmail.com

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asantiago    89

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Hello Michelle

I will email you. I myself had gastric bypass last December and been through a lot and also lost 89 pounds within a few points. Please don't lose hope for your husband. I will email you and tell you my story or even talk if you like. Everything is going to be ok. My name is Ana and my email address is anasantiago786@gmail.com

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mr1121    59

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Hi Ana, I will never give up on him. I am just as crazy about him today as I was 15 years ago. I just really need some guidance so I can help him. Anything you can offer I would greatly appreciate. I will shoot you an email so you also have my email address. Thank you so much for responding. I was getting worried because nobody seemed interested in helping me today on this site. Again big thanks.

Talk to you soon hopefully.

Michelle

Michelle Rose

Spring TX 77373

Email: mr110726@gmail.com

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asantiago    89

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Hi Michelle

Trust me everything will be ok . You have a big heart to be there for your husband. That is so sweet what yiu said about him. I will help you as much as I can and maybe my story will help him feel better and knowing he is not alone. :) . I will email you soon.

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Joy@boman    151

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Yes he def needs to up his nutrition. But free weights can help a lot. Does he have a weight bench? Maybe that would motivate him. Also as a counselor going on and off depression meds can really mess with your brain and cause major depression

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lindaras22    22

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Hi all

I'm not a bypass I'm a sleever but my husband did the bypass. He has lost 240lbs in 13 months. I have watched him over the past year become so unhappy. He finally talked about what he was feeling the other day and it is really weighing on our marriage. He said he feels like a Frail old man. Has no muscle ton and no butt ( lol) but his diet is pizza and chicken parm. He is it a fruit or veggie eater before or after surgery so I know he is undernourished and does not take his Vitamins and depression meds on a daily basis. He doesn't want to lose anymore weight and he doesn't know how to stop it.

Has anyone reached their goal weight and been able to maintain it? If so, can you give me some pointers so I can help him? It is so bad that I check on him every hour if he is out of my sight because I fear the worst. I am tired of living like this and I know he is as well

However, he is a man and reallly doesn't talk much about it. I told him just a bit ago that he needs to go talk to a professional about the mental side of his weight loss.

Please help

Michelle Rose

Spring TX 77373

Email: mr110726@gmail.com

Yes he does . For sure . This is a big change ad he lost his best friend (food) . Look into it for him , he probably feels less of a man . This is just like alcohol addiction. Praying for u 2

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mike4276    8

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I am thankful for the doctor and hospital where I had my surgery. They do a one month, three months, 6 months, and yearly checkups. After I meet the doctor I have meetings with a dietician, exercise specialist, and a psychiatrist. I can also call them anytime I need them. I thank God they are so thorough and care about my good health.

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