11 months and need some assistance

[Kim.K84 0]

Nov 16th I will be 1 year post. I have an appointment on the Nov 23rd and I'm stressing to hear those hurtful words come from the doctor. "I expected better results from you!" To give yall an idea I started my journey at 238lbs and went down to 162lbs. In the last few months I have not lost I have gained now back to 170lbs. Not motivated and stressed out leads me to give those famous excuses we all pray we will stop making. I eat horrible food out of boredum always justifying why and encouraging myself that tomorrow I will get back on track. When I talk to people outside the wls circle they say we all make mistakes and look at your progress. NOPE I feel like a complete failure and am disgusted with my new/old habits. Any advice from someone who has found them self in this vicious cycle?

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[Butterflywarrior 241]

I haven't had surgery yet but has ur doctor made hurtful comments before or do you assume he will due to past bbegative experiences in your pre surgery days?

I suggest make a plan of action you know you plan in doing like seeing the NUT and maybe therapist too? Why are yiu continuing to self sabatoge this tool?? Emotional eating perhaps? You acknowledge and recognize there is a problem si that's awesome now it's time to seriously intervine and get help to reverse this pattern!! I believe if your doctor is any good, he will recognize the issues, patterns, be happy y didn't just disappear and will help and not ridicule you!!

[ExCookieMonster 34]

Hi!

I'm nearly 7 months post-op.

I have a huge compulsion problem. None of my tips work alone, but together they're helping me a lot.

- buy new clothes. it feels amazing.

- stay away from temptation. I actually have to talk my self out of going to fast-food joints, to just GO HOME.

- make your home a good environment: only healthy food.< /p>

- know that it's okay to feel angry and frustrated.

- also know that 20 chicken nuggets will only make you more frustrated. I actually say that to myself: remember how miserable it feels after you're done eating.

- I've been in therapy and frankly it saved my life.

- talk to friends and family about it.

- see photos of you at the hospital. do it for the past you, the one suffering from gas pains.

- negotiate with yourself: ok, I can eat nuggets, but only after I eat this mini-carrot. If you feel full you're less likely to give in.

(as you can see nuggets are my achilles heel)

- yoga helps with anxiety and it's a good hobby.

[sammy246 235]

As with any addiction, admitting it is half the battle. You know what your doing, and you also know how to use healthy eating to lose. Start immediately and go into your next appointment with a plan and ask for help executing it.

It's not too late and you are worth fighting for! Get it girl!

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[Leesa926 72]

I have similar stats as you except I was sleeved 12/15. 237 day of surgery 170 now. I feel great! My doc is happy and most the people I know have lost around the same. I know I'd have better results if I work out more do that is my issue and yes better choices. My perfect goal is 135- 145 but I think I'd be happy at 150-160. My point is I only have 25-30 ish lbs to go. That is totally doable. Everyone says the last 20 are the hardest.

Now trust me I get down on myself about it but reading your post put it in my face and made me realize how far we have come. Don't be so negative and down!

I ate a full chocolate bar tonight. Good idea, no but it's done time to move on :-) believe me I stress all the time and then do nothing but seeing someone else in the same spot helps to know I'm not alone.

Maybe we can help each other through. Compare weekly. Kinda like weight watchers being held accountable.

Good luck, I'm here for ya!

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[Kim.K84 0]

I have similar stats as you except I was sleeved 12/15. 237 day of surgery 170 now. I feel great! My doc is happy and most the people I know have lost around the same. I know I'd have better results if I work out more do that is my issue and yes better choices. My perfect goal is 135- 145 but I think I'd be happy at 150-160. My point is I only have 25-30 ish lbs to go. That is totally doable. Everyone says the last 20 are the hardest.

Now trust me I get down on myself about it but reading your post put it in my face and made me realize how far we have come. Don't be so negative and down!

I ate a full chocolate bar tonight. Good idea, no but it's done time to move on :-) believe me I stress all the time and then do nothing but seeing someone else in the same spot helps to know I'm not alone.

Maybe we can help each other through. Compare weekly. Kinda like weight watchers being held accountable.

Good luck, I'm here for ya!

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I would love that . thank you ????

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Nov 16th I will be 1 year post. I have an appointment on the Nov 23rd and I'm stressing to hear those hurtful words come from the doctor. "I expected better results from you!" To give yall an idea I started my journey at 238lbs and went down to 162lbs. In the last few months I have not lost I have gained now back to 170lbs. Not motivated and stressed out leads me to give those famous excuses we all pray we will stop making. I eat horrible food out of boredum always justifying why and encouraging myself that tomorrow I will get back on track. When I talk to people outside the wls circle they say we all make mistakes and look at your progress. NOPE I feel like a complete failure and am disgusted with my new/old habits. Any advice from someone who has found them self in this vicious cycle?

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I am so sorry that you are struggling.

Have you talked to your NUT about your challenges and goals?

Are you attending support group meetings?

Are you seeing a therapist?

Have you considered attending recovery meetings or other support group meetings like Overeaters Anonymous? You can find meeting lists and other resources online at OA.org.

In the meantime, go back to basics.

Are you tracking your food?

Are you drinking at least 64 oz of Fluid a day?

Are you reaching your Protein target every day?

Are you avoiding starches, added sugars (especially high fructose corn syrup), and fried foods?

Are you taking your Vitamins and supplements as directed?

Are you exercising?

Are you getting enough restful sleep?