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I'm currently in the pre-op stages of getting weight loss surgery. I have done all the pre-op tests and have been cleared to get a date assigned.

The only thing now is that I haven't made the final decision to go through with this. The reason for this uncertainty is the following:

I started to work on changing my eating habits and to work on nutrition and getting more physical activity in since back in January 2016. I have successfully lost around 120 lbs up to this month of September. My doctor and others have mentioned that perhaps working on losing more weight on my own with the habit changes I have been making should be something I should continue, and to post-pone surgery for a few more months to see how much more weight I can lose on my own.

This is where I am stuck. I'm struggling with deciding whether to try to lose more weight on my own as I have been doing and wait several more months for the surgery, or to go ahead and proceed with setting a date and having the surgery done sooner.

Anyone have any thoughts or advice regarding this thought process I am having? Did anyone have similar second thoughts or decide to wait longer before having surgery?

Thank you all for your support :)

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I personally think if surgery can be avoided, avoid it. You have done amazingly well on your own. I would continue to try and do that. I can live with my decision because I lost weight on my own once and due to a personal tragedy and a trauma I gained it all back plus more. After that nothing was working. I found as I got older it was harder. Even though I do not regret my decision, the joy of eating goes out the window. Basically you eat to survive, which is alright but sometimes I wish I could have more that 4 bites.

It is something to think about, also this surgery made me severely anemic and it made existing conditions a little worse. I just have to deal with it.

Best of luck with whatever you decide. At the end of the day, only you have to deal with you.

God bless.

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