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Someone that i met on here we befriended each other on fb. The other night she posted a new pic and i got it mixed up and thought the pic was posted on this page and i mentioned something about her being beautiful with or without surgery and boy, i woke up this morning to being cussed out on my page because she hadnt told anyone she had surgery. I tried to explain the mix up and that it wasnt done maliciously but i was still cussed out. I just feel bad because i dont know her situation and i feel like i outed her from something she wasnt ready to explain to people.

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Being someone that is very private, I would be majorly PISSED.

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My surgery was four days ago. I am still extremely weak. I don't have the energy to walk but I know I need to. Is it too soon?

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You're supposed to start walking the day of surgery but I was unable. I'm on day 4 and weak but I push myself to walk a little bit then I lay back down.

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I have found that the walking is making me feel MUCH better.

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I'm kinda old (almost 50), and I am always perplexed why people feel that everyone is on a need to know basis these days? Maybe it's 24 hour news and social media?

Whatever happened to good ol' privacy?

I'm one that told people, but if I had chosen not to and people felt the need to ask me what I was having done, you bet your shrinking booties I would have shut them down right quick.

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My surgery was four days ago. I am still extremely weak. I don't have the energy to walk but I know I need to. Is it too soon?

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It is not too soon. Every hour, get up and walk around your house. I got off the couch, looped through the family room, kitchen, down the hall to the living room, through the living room and dining room, back into the kitchen, back into the family room, and back onto the couch. Once an hour- or once every 2 hours if you are really weak. You aren't going to get any stronger by not walking. Your muscles will weaken. "Walk" doesn't necessarily mean on or treadmill or outside, for a mile or more. It just means get up and move!!

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Very professional people who know the law and know it is ILLEGAL to ask!!!!!! People do you know that your boss can't ask and has NO legal right to know that kind of detail???? Actually it is in their best not to know!!!! All that detail was handled by HR and they can't tell.

I'm quoting this because I wish more people realized this information. The amount of people that work in these unprofessional work places is staggering to me. Most of these people and their co-workers are walking lawsuits. A good HR dept is not going to want you disclosing all this medical information to your co-workers. Your boss shouldn't want to know. If you have surgery then get passed over for a promotion or something, you can easily blame it on surgery based discrimination, regardless of the facts, and bring a lawsuit. No good manager wants to know all your business like that. People work for unprofessional untrained management that are opening their companies to liability on a daily basis.

I haven't told anyone but my super close friends I had surgery. People see how I eat and how I act. They never think I had surgery. They think I have changed my way of eating and I am sticking to it. Which is what happened and is true. If you eat properly and live an active life, no one will assume you had WLS to lose weight. However if you sit at your desk sucking the toppings off pizza, and never do anything active and are dropping weight like a stone that raises eyebrows. Most people believe diet and exercise work, the idea that it doesn't really work for people is beyond their comprehension.

No one at work knows outside of my HR benefits employee who processed my FMLA. My boss did receive an email, saying only that FMLA had been approved and the dates.

I had surgery in December of last year, a few have asked if it's related and I just say yes. (It was gallbladder removal and a scope for endo so not entirely true). But they leave it at that and so do I. 3500 people work in the same building. The last thing I need is gossip and people love to talk.

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I didn't care. For me, people knowing about my surgery was not a big deal. If they judge me, who cares. Most everyone was supportive and gave me encouragement. I didn't have to hide anything. I understand if people feel the need for privacy and it's a personal choice. It's your right. Just for me, being open was a good experience.

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Some people like attention. That is perfectly fine. I like being anonymous until I tell you anything, lol!

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