LPNAshley 194 Posted September 27, 2016 Just taking a moment to vent! I have a neighbor who really is just a wretched human being. Hubby and I have called the cops on this woman a few times for physically threatening me, but they say they can't do anything unless it's physical. I call bull on that but anyhoo. This lovely woman has now taken to oh so noncreative insults. I'm 9 months post RNY. I've lost 120 lbs. I still have a ways to go but man I'm stoked. Well this chick apparently can't tell the difference between Water and a slurpee. Sure as shoot, every time I come home from work she comments about how happy she is I got myself another slurpee. Folks, it's a clear Tervis tumbler with WATER! She also enjoys telling me that she knows what it's like to wake up with twinkies on her pillow (hence the Twinkie twit). Here are my main things, because I'm truly more amused by her comments that upset. 1: It's the "easy" way out. Don't like someone? Comment on their appearance. That'll show them! If it weren't for her letting me know I'm fat (still am no shame here) then how would I ever know?! I swear I went to sleep last night a "normal" BMI! Thank goodness she told me so I can get to the bottom of this! 2: I would much rather still have the 120 lbs I lost than be so negative. If fat is the worst thing someone can come up with than I think I'm doing alright. There are so many worse qualities people can have than excess weight. 3: I don't even know this woman's name. Despite living next door she's a stranger. Why in the world would her opinion mean anything? Yes, I'm taking time to talk about it, but more because I'm tired of "you're fat" being the go to insult. It's old, it's tired, and you're not telling me anything I don't already know. Sorry this was long (but not sorry because I feel better )! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KristenLe 5,979 Posted September 27, 2016 @@LPNAshley Is she 15 years old? My God - what is friçken wrong with her - grow the hell up and shut up! It'd piss me off just having to listen to her nonsense. Can you just look at her and say SHUT THE F*@K UP you stupid bitch? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LPNAshley 194 Posted September 27, 2016 @@KristenLe lol I could but a reaction is what she wants. I come inside, hubby and I laugh it off, and I go about my day. It's definitely not mature, and it's not an example I would want to set for my children, but she's hopefully leaving soon. She doesn't know the progress I've made. And it really just hits home with me how yes obesity is a huge problem, but making or trying to make people feel bad about themselves won't do any good. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Browneyedgirl41 176 Posted September 28, 2016 She's a miserable person. I'm sorry you even have to deal with someone like that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OKCPirate 5,323 Posted September 28, 2016 Winston Churchill's exchange with Lady Astor Winston, your drunk And you Lady Astor, are ugly...however in the morning I'll be sober. And at the end of the day, you will be healthy and she will still be ugly. Just saying. I had the same crap with my ex, I just got to the point where I refused to partisipate in her drama. That is very liberating. George Bush Sr. was asked by 60 minutes to do a special interview on the eve of his son's invasion of Iraq, and he said "no." And they said "but you don't understand, this is history." He said "well I don't give a rip, I'm going fishing." When you get to that point, you are really liberated and free. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hadenough2 13 Posted September 28, 2016 Just taking a moment to vent! I have a neighbor who really is just a wretched human being. Hubby and I have called the cops on this woman a few times for physically threatening me, but they say they can't do anything unless it's physical. I call bull on that but anyhoo. This lovely woman has now taken to oh so noncreative insults. I'm 9 months post RNY. I've lost 120 lbs. I still have a ways to go but man I'm stoked. Well this chick apparently can't tell the difference between Water and a slurpee. Sure as shoot, every time I come home from work she comments about how happy she is I got myself another slurpee. Folks, it's a clear Tervis tumbler with WATER! She also enjoys telling me that she knows what it's like to wake up with twinkies on her pillow (hence the Twinkie twit). Here are my main things, because I'm truly more amused by her comments that upset. 1: It's the "easy" way out. Don't like someone? Comment on their appearance. That'll show them! If it weren't for her letting me know I'm fat (still am no shame here) then how would I ever know?! I swear I went to sleep last night a "normal" BMI! Thank goodness she told me so I can get to the bottom of this! 2: I would much rather still have the 120 lbs I lost than be so negative. If fat is the worst thing someone can come up with than I think I'm doing alright. There are so many worse qualities people can have than excess weight. 3: I don't even know this woman's name. Despite living next door she's a stranger. Why in the world would her opinion mean anything? Yes, I'm taking time to talk about it, but more because I'm tired of "you're fat" being the go to insult. It's old, it's tired, and you're not telling me anything I don't already know. Sorry this was long (but not sorry because I feel better )! i wouldnt give her the time of day..none of her business...when people are angry like that it is because they hate their own life and need to take it out on someone...still, i would have a hard time not feeding the frenzy and tell her, that her parents must be proud.... Sent from my SM-S820L using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pescador 1,374 Posted September 28, 2016 How does she know any of your business! I refuse to let anyone negative into my personal space. ANYONE. Good grief! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cbonet 336 Posted September 28, 2016 So sorry you come home and leave home to that. Put on your best 120 lb less strut, put your smaller chin high and walk proudly past her sad stuck self. You go girl! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Havasumoma 250 Posted September 28, 2016 I might be tempted to reply with something very sweet. "Well good afternoon to you too dear. Have a lovely evening." CW 227 5'5" 61yrs Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reeniemay 64 Posted September 28, 2016 Are you saying I'm fat??!!! What?? <insert fake tears> then roll your eyes and give her the ol' middle finger Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
butterballnomore. 17 Posted September 28, 2016 Buy her a slurpee and a Twinkie ( hahah whatever that is) and take it over next time. Since you keep commenting on what I do I thought I would get you one too. Kill em with kindness I say. She is probably a very sad woman and needs some lovin. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lorie269 392 Posted September 28, 2016 I swear I am always surprised to hear/read/experience such nasty, mean people in the world. I really just don't get it...what does belittling someone do for them? Sadly, bullies will always exist. You do you and as hard as it is, don't let her control your emotions and feelings about yourself! 120lbs...WAY TO GO!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dub 9,922 Posted September 28, 2016 Damn..........this thread just reminded me how cool my current neighbors are and that I need to do something to show I appreciate them. Both sides are dog owners......and they never complain about my deck music and grill smoke. One of them, rocks her music even louder than I do......and routinely throws a steak on her grill that smells better than what may be on mine. It's like we are backyard version of playing rock, paper, scissors. Good neighbors are great.....bad ones, which I've had before, are aggravating as hell. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
QueenOfTheTamazons 634 Posted September 28, 2016 Ive had issues with a neighbor down the street too. Her go to insult is calling me a fat bich. The hilarious thing? She is just as fat and unarguably less attractive. She lives with her mom and dad and works part time at Circle K. Ive also heard that she has new boyfriend... who has been in jail for over a year. What part of her life gives her the right to throw stones? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Recycled 2,182 Posted September 28, 2016 Turn the tables.......walk up to her next time with your cell and video her rant.......then let her know you're sticking it on U-tube. She'll avoid you like the plague from then on. 1 stephrpatt reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites