Feeling annoyed with my bf... need advice

[Babbs 14,681]

How much you wanna bet when this guy gets a cold, he acts like he's on deaths door?

Yet having 85% of your stomach removed is "minor".

Some people.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

Yeah you really have to live your life for yourself and worry about your needs.

I never thought I was an unhappy fat person or in pain, but now that I have lost weight I can recognize how much pain I was in every single day, and how uncomfortable I was daily, just doing daily tasks.

When you lose weight and feel better, you will have a whole new outlook on life. If you are in your 20s still, you are doing yourself a big favor by taking care of this now instead of later.

[krazykristen 61]

How much you wanna bet when this guy gets a cold, he acts like he's on deaths door?

Yet having 85% of your stomach removed is "minor".

Some people.

My thoughts exactly. Thats how he is

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Yeah you really have to live your life for yourself and worry about your needs.

I never thought I was an unhappy fat person or in pain, but now that I have lost weight I can recognize how much pain I was in every single day, and how uncomfortable I was daily, just doing daily tasks.

When you lose weight and feel better, you will have a whole new outlook on life. If you are in your 20s still, you are doing yourself a big favor by taking care of this now instead of later.

Im happy you are no longer in pain I have daily back pain and knee pain and I'm only 25. Im also 258 and 5'4.

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[Pescador 1,374]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

[krazykristen 61]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

It seems to be that way. Its always all about him and his kid and it frustrates me. This is the ONE thing I have chosen to take control of my life and he acts like its no big deal. Im tired of worrying about other people and not myself. That's why Im so overweight

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[Babbs 14,681]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

It seems to be that way. Its always all about him and his kid and it frustrates me. This is the ONE thing I have chosen to take control of my life and he acts like its no big deal. Im tired of worrying about other people and not myself. That's why Im so overweight

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You seem like a smart girl with a good head on your shoulders. You'll figure this out Keep us posted on your progress and whether you end up killing this guy

[krazykristen 61]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

It seems to be that way. Its always all about him and his kid and it frustrates me. This is the ONE thing I have chosen to take control of my life and he acts like its no big deal. Im tired of worrying about other people and not myself. That's why Im so overweight

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You seem like a smart girl with a good head on your shoulders. You'll figure this out Keep us posted on your progress and whether you end up killing this guy

Will do and thank you lmao Im at the point where I have to be selfish and maybe that sounds conceited but Im tired of worrying about everyone else.

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[Pescador 1,374]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

It seems to be that way. Its always all about him and his kid and it frustrates me. This is the ONE thing I have chosen to take control of my life and he acts like its no big deal. Im tired of worrying about other people and not myself. That's why Im so overweight

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Sweetie, this is all about you. Trust me, he can replace you for another babysitter. I hope you value yourself as a human being to stand up for yourself. He will be very threatened by your surgery and weight loss. No matter, so long as you expect it. There are many women her who have experienced this and will reach out to you. Be firm, be strong, do not waffle. If he is the love of your life hopefully you will know it soon. You can do this, you will find your strength I promise you. You won't be the same, you will demand more for yourself as a partner in life.

[krazykristen 61]

When the focus comes off him and is on you, things changed, right? You are old enough to take charge of your life. Best wishes, good luck, and reflect on how he treats you during this process. That is your future.

It seems to be that way. Its always all about him and his kid and it frustrates me. This is the ONE thing I have chosen to take control of my life and he acts like its no big deal. Im tired of worrying about other people and not myself. That's why Im so overweight

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Sweetie, this is all about you. Trust me, he can replace you for another babysitter. I hope you value yourself as a human being to stand up for yourself. He will be very threatened by your surgery and weight loss. No matter, so long as you expect it. There are many women her who have experienced this and will reach out to you. Be firm, be strong, do not waffle. If he is the love of your life hopefully you will know it soon. You can do this, you will find your strength I promise you. You won't be the same, you will demand more for yourself as a partner in life.

Thank you I appreciate that ♡

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[Christinamo7 4,042]

a couple of things to keep in mind in the coming weeks

a lot of us have crazy hormones right after surgery - for me up till about 4 1/2 months. unreasonably sad at times, madder than usual, after my husband like crazy. it's not typically a time to make changes to your life without at least filtering those decisions through someone unbiased whom you trust. and it is always a good idea when one has a partner, to warn them ahead of time about the good and the bad aspects of that hormone dump.

secondly, I find the better I am at self care, the more appropriate boundaries I have in my life and the better I am at caring for the people I care about - so hoping at the end of the day this will improve all y'all's lives

[sey1008 43]

He is 28. And Im in Texas so its hot right now. Feel free to say whatever lol its all good. Thanks for the advice.

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Yeahhhh mid October is a toss up. We are supposed to get a front, but it was like 80 for Christmas in Houston last year, so I wouldn't count on the cool down being permanent. That said, don't push yourself too much. You need to move, but you also need to heal. He sounds like he needs a reality check. Show him real videos of the procedure and show him potential complications. Make sure he understands how serious dehydration can be.

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[KristenLe 5,979]

Take care of yourself! He sounds like a selfish dick - if he comes around and is supportive then great - if not you'll be fine on your own! Best of luck with surgery and recovery!

[Havasumoma 250]

Sounds like he could benefit from attending your pre-op appointments with you.

CW 227 5'5" 61yrs

[cbonet 336]

Would it help him to have a reality check if he watched the video Of the surgery with you? Visuals can be very impactful especially since on the outside there's only a few incisions. Its recognizing what actually happens internally. If he doesn't get it then, he probably won't. Good luck.

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[bitingcat 87]

Don't forget you're not supposed to lift stuff - the last thing you want is to get stranded somewhere with a bunch of junk you can't carry. I had two c-sections with similar restrictions and the 6 week recovery is nothing to fool around with. It is major surgery - consider making him watch on YouTube . At the very least, go over post operative instructions from your surgeon with him. If he's unwilling to seriously listen and agree to support you, you may need to throw him back and bait another hook Personally, I'd vote no on the event. But I'm up for surgery next week and still hedging on whether I'll be up to taking a group of squealing teen girls to an anime convention over a Halloween weekend.

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