Gordita81 98 Posted September 23, 2016 2 more days of this liquid diet, 1 day of Clear Liquids then I go in! I'm not a scared as I thought I would be. My husband has finally told me how he feels. He doesn't want me to do this. He insists I can lose the weight with diet and exercise. Yet, he says he supports me. Well, despite how he feels, I am foing this. This is for me and my health. Why do people wait until the last minute to voice their opinions and try to make you feel horrible? Sent from my LGMS428 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
James Marusek 5,244 Posted September 23, 2016 Good luck on your upcoming surgery. My mother was the only one that expressed negative opinions about my surgery. She didn't want me to do this. She is elderly and was somewhat dependent on the care I provided her and she wanted nothing to happen that could interfere with this care. So I could understand her reluctance to the surgery. It is natural to fear the unknown. But sometimes this fear of the unknown is manifested in others about you, like your parents, spouse, children. Some of it is a true concern for your health. Some of it may be an aversion to change. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Candidate 3,215 Posted September 23, 2016 In those last few days before surgery, my happiness and excitement completely overwrote any lingering fears. I had a hard time keeping a smile off my face as they wheeled me in. I knew my life was finally going to change forever, and that fat would no longer be my defining word. Commit to this change with every Fiber of your being and I promise you that you will never look back again. I can't adequately describe how much better my life is now than it was before surgery. And please make sure you take plenty of before pics, along with your measurements. Congrats and best of luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mlord1@charter.net 17 Posted September 23, 2016 How exciting, your so close. I'm so happy for you. I wish you all positive support in this journey. I guess people that aren't in your shoes my not understand. But you have support, keep going forward. Your life is going to get better and better each day. Next week I start my liquid diet, my pre-op is on 09/30. so I'm right behind you in the steps. My surgery is on 10/13. Enjoy you ) Chat again MIchelle Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gordita81 98 Posted September 23, 2016 I am so excited! I had to put the countdown on my phone in order to keep my anxiety under control. I wanted it to come sooner! My mother is indifferent to mt decision. I personally believe she would benefit from surgery as well. All she says when we talk about my upcoming surgery is that she likes her food too much. She could never made the sacrifices that I have made. My husband, on the other hand, keeps trying to get me to eat. He applauds my willpower, always asks why I am starving myself. He reslly hates that I am doing this but knows that he cannot stop me either. Sent from my LGMS428 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emuts 18 Posted September 23, 2016 2 more days of this liquid diet, 1 day of Clear liquids then I go in! I'm not a scared as I thought I would be. My husband has finally told me how he feels. He doesn't want me to do this. He insists I can lose the weight with diet and exercise. Yet, he says he supports me. Well, despite how he feels, I am foing this. This is for me and my health. Why do people wait until the last minute to voice their opinions and try to make you feel horrible? Screenshot_2016-09-22-20-53-48-1.png Sent from my LGMS428 using the BariatricPal App Hi. My surgery is on wednesday I also have a countdown. My hubby wasn't too happy about me doing the bypass either. But he said he loves me enough to be by my side all the way and support me. Once your husband starts seeing how well you're feeling, he's gonna be glad you did it. Good Luck! Starting a new Healthy Life Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gordita81 98 Posted September 23, 2016 (edited) @@Emuts, thank you. It makes me feel better to know that I am not the only one struggling with the lack positive support (for lack of a better phrase). Good luck to you as well! See you on the Loser's Bench! Sent from my LGMS428 using the BariatricPal App Edited September 23, 2016 by Gordita81 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DebSmiles 62 Posted September 23, 2016 @Gordita81 Congratulations on your upcoming surgery! I pray all goes well I am scheduled in January, even though the boyfriend is not happy about it. He is trying to be supportive but it's hard for him. I think he will hate the change of me not eating all the crazy stuff we eat together. He is overweight too, but feels he can lose weight whenever he wants. I believe this is the best decision for me. Keep us updated on your progress! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KristenLe 5,979 Posted September 23, 2016 @@Gordita81 I'm so excited for you!!! You've got this! I'm sure your husband is a little scared and that's why he doesn't want you to have surgery. I'm sure once he knows you're okay - he'll feel better. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
starlight_dreams 15 Posted September 24, 2016 Good luck on your surgery and no worries hubby will come around. He's just worried and nervous about it all. God Bless Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites