How do you know what weight you should be?

[losergrl75 277]

This is such an interesting topic and I am enjoying everyone's answers. I have changed my goal weight about a million times since I started my journey. My surgeon and NUT never set a goal weight for me , they only told me what was considered my excess body weight and the average % of excess body weight they see most patient's lose. I set an inital goal weight of 160--starting at 242 it seemed impossible to lose more than 80lbs in a year. It is just impossible to wrap your mind around the rapid weight loss phase until you're actually in it. I hit 160 at around the 6month mark and mentioned it to my surgeon at my checkup. Again, they never suggested an actual goal weight for me , but mentioned that most of their patients see the most significant improvement to health just from getting out of the obese BMI even if they remain in what is classified as an overweight weight. I had then revised my goal weight to 140 which would be just a hair over into the overweight BMI for my height. I also vainly thought it would be a nice number to tell people that I've lost 100 pounds, when asked. I met with my NUT this week for my 9month followup ( don't see surgeon again until a year) and told her I think I've changed it yet again to 145 lol I have been bouncing back and forth between 146-148 couple of weeks to a month. I'm 5;2" and this has put me mostly in size 8 pants ( some 6s thanks to vanity sizing) and Medium shirts/dresses and more importantly all my health issues are gone. Plus, I worry about setting my goal weight so low that I have to constantly diet to maintain. I know I will still need to be diligent about eating to plan, but I don't want to put myself in a position of subsiding on 800 calories a day for life just to maintain. I see folks post stuff like that in some of my FB groups all the time.They claim to be several years out , eating to plan but constantly having to do a 5 day reset just to maintain........