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I need advice about my ex-girlfriend.


Hiraeth

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She is a whirlwind of dysfunction and drama, and she is trying to make you her emotional tampon.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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Stop making excuses for her. She slept with another woman because she wanted to, not because she was forced to. Just like her current relationship. Typical victim mentality she continually has. That is why she is toxic, no other reasons.

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You're right. I am making excuses for her. She blames her ex-boyfriend raping her for her PTSD. But, in my opinion, I think she's just gay and sleeping with men gives her anxiety.

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She is a whirlwind of dysfunction and drama, and she is trying to make you her emotional tampon.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Yes, she is. She actually knows this about herself. She always says, "I think I'm too screwed up to be in a relationship." I think she is also very insecure and afraid to be alone.

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Again, that's her problem to deal with. Let her deal with it (or not, since most people like that tend to revel in it... )

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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Again, that's her problem to deal with. Let her deal with it (or not, since most people like that tend to revel in it... )

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

A part of me feels like she is trying to get me to talk her into leaving him. Do you get that vibe in what I've written?

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Yes. She's playing you and trying to make you the bad guy for breaking up her relationship. (ie., she's a chickenshit)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Edited by Fredbear

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Yes. She's playing you and trying to make you the bad guy for breaking up her relationship. (ie., she's a chickenshit)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

What? I didn't break up a relationship. She's still with her fiance, lol.

EDIT: Wait, I think I know what you mean. You mean she's trying to use me as a way out? I'm not so sure about that. I think she really wants it to work with him. I think she's trying to force herself to love him.

Edited by Hiraeth

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Yes. Do not believe 100% out of a mouth of a person you never met face to face. Cunning and deceitful people are amazing how to tune into your personality and exploit your vulnerabilities to get their jollies off.

This girl is a complete catfish from the jump.

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Please stop trying to analyze her and this situation. As painful as it is and will be, you just have to end it...and end it in your head as well. What you are doing is tantamount to picking at a scab over and over. It will never heal if you don't leave it alone.

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