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Well i was meant to get sleeved on the 19 August but ran in to complications n ended up being closed up unsleeved.was told to lose a another 15kg. I was so angry i let 2 hrs after waking up. I was so determined but they sed take couple days then get bk into it. I had been in liquid diet 3/4 weeks prior. Now the problem im having is getting bk into the diet successfully. No please no judgement cause i know i really want the surgery and know what a difference it will make but for some reason im just not able to kick myself in the butt hard enough to do it. I need a push but feel like so much is going on and food has always been my comfort. I was 205 now im 210 going bk on myself already

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@@kemstah Do you have a therapist?? I think that might be the best place to start. Find out why you keep sabotaging yourself. It will benefit you once you've had surgery too. You just have to do it (I know easier said than done)! Write a list of all the things you want to do when you lose weight - all the positive outcomes of WLS - and anytime you feel like cheating - read that list and remind yourself why you need to stick with it. Find other things to bring you comfort than food. Read a trashy novel, learn how to paint, go for a walk, paint your nails, etc. You are strong enough to get through the liquid diet and lose the necessary weight - you just have to believe that!!!

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I can't imagine the feeling of starting surgery and not having it go through. I am so sorry.

I had such fears of my liver causing an issue.

Just keep thinking of the goal, look at the success stories and photos here. That is what kept me going when I was suffering the liquid phase, not to mention the longer caffeine and alcohol free time. I actually stopped drinking all alcohol and taking almost all OTC drugs months before my diet restrictions because I wanted to do all that I could to avoid issues. Not sure if it made difference or surgery would have happened regardless. But, I do know that my liver numbers got better in those few months.

Good luck!

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@@kemstah Do you have a therapist?? I think that might be the best place to start. Find out why you keep sabotaging yourself. It will benefit you once you've had surgery too. You just have to do it (I know easier said than done)! Write a list of all the things you want to do when you lose weight - all the positive outcomes of WLS - and anytime you feel like cheating - read that list and remind yourself why you need to stick with it. Find other things to bring you comfort than food. Read a trashy novel, learn how to paint, go for a walk, paint your nails, etc. You are strong enough to get through the liquid diet and lose the necessary weight - you just have to believe that!!!

Thank u for ur kind words call for the therapist but shes off for a month. I wrote reminders to pop up n remind me. I really need to pull it together but forgot to mention ive got 4 weeks to do it

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I can't imagine the feeling of starting surgery and not having it go through. I am so sorry.

I had such fears of my liver causing an issue.

Just keep thinking of the goal, look at the success stories and photos here. That is what kept me going when I was suffering the liquid phase, not to mention the longer caffeine and alcohol free time. I actually stopped drinking all alcohol and taking almost all OTC drugs months before my diet restrictions because I wanted to do all that I could to avoid issues. Not sure if it made difference or surgery would have happened regardless. But, I do know that my liver numbers got better in those few months.

Good luck!

Thanks ill defo try harder n think of my goal for after surgery

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