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Honestly, the idea of having surgery was always in the back of my mind. At least since my mother had her Gastric Bypass in 2004. I honestly never thought I'd be anywhere near this weight (currently 285) and it terrifies me. It's a weird thing. You live your busy life every single day and you don't really feel any different from day to day. Then one day something happens, either a special event or an "unapproved" photo is posted by your kids or even just that the roller coaster seat is a tighter fit than you remember. Then you look in the mirror and you realize that "a little overweight" went out the door a long time ago.

I'm scared to have this surgery, but if I'm being honest with myself I'm more scared of not having it. Of course I'm scared of the actualy surgery part... mostly of anything happening and me not surviving it. I have a husband and 2 teenage daughters so the thought of anything happening to me and leaving them alone is scary. I'm also scared of screwing up after I have the surgery. Will I adjust to my new lifestyle or will I fail and have to go through the process of losing myself all over again.

Being overweight has taken a toll on my marriage, social life and career. I am choosing not to let that continue. I am choosing to change my path and begin a new journey. I would love to hear from others who are also starting their journey or are on the other side of surgery.

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Honestly, the idea of having surgery was always in the back of my mind. At least since my mother had her Gastric Bypass in 2004. I honestly never thought I'd be anywhere near this weight (currently 285) and it terrifies me. It's a weird thing. You live your busy life every single day and you don't really feel any different from day to day. Then one day something happens, either a special event or an "unapproved" photo is posted by your kids or even just that the roller coaster seat is a tighter fit than you remember. Then you look in the mirror and you realize that "a little overweight" went out the door a long time ago.

I'm scared to have this surgery, but if I'm being honest with myself I'm more scared of not having it. Of course I'm scared of the actualy surgery part... mostly of anything happening and me not surviving it. I have a husband and 2 teenage daughters so the thought of anything happening to me and leaving them alone is scary. I'm also scared of screwing up after I have the surgery. Will I adjust to my new lifestyle or will I fail and have to go through the process of losing myself all over again.

Being overweight has taken a toll on my marriage, social life and career. I am choosing not to let that continue. I am choosing to change my path and begin a new journey. I would love to hear from others who are also starting their journey or are on the other side of surgery.

I can totally relate to how you feel; it's scary to have this surgery but yet if we don't have it then what is our quality of life going to be. I hate hiding everytime I see someone taking photos, or not going to an event because I feel insecure about how I look.

This surgery is going to change our lives which will also change the lives of our loved ones as well. The journey will be long and I am sure have a few bumps in the road but we got this!!!

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Hello. I'm having my sleeve done in a week and I am not sleeping at night wondering what I'm doing! I have two girls ages 4 and 9 and I cant have anything go wrong. They need me. I'm so scared! I'm also scared about screwing up afterwards. I understand how you feel x

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Countdown to surgery is 72 hours. I've survived the beastly pre-op diet thus far. two more days of it. Today and tomorrow. down something like 9 pounds. My OCD has me organizing this down to the minute......does not help that I am an OR nurse....I dare ya to try and control that aspect too....hah!

I work in the field, I know what I'm getting into....something, something.....yeah, still nervous.....

So far as worrying about screwing up afterwards? Remember that you have a tool. Use it thusly. Follow your doctor's rules and you will be fine. I suspect the idea of any of the stuff we ate to get us this way will be rather repugnant. Your body will help you initially....use this time to develop good habits.

I had a RNY about 12 years ago. Had to be reversed due to other health problems. I had to force myself to eat the little bit I was allowed. For the first time in my life, I was told i was not eating enough....after about 18 months though, it's all you. That's why this time right after surgery is where you work on your head....your body will adapt naturally.

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The risks associated with surgery itself are minuscule compared to the health risks of morbid obesity. If you want to be around for your husband and children, have the surgery. You are lowering your risk of death by about 9 fold.

https://asmbs.org/patients/bariatric-surgery-misconceptions

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