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Maybe you could cook meals now and put in freezer bags for them. Using the slow cooker is a great way to make large quanities. It did that due to commuting when my kids were young. It worked really well. Just label each bag with the food name and date. Good luck

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I am 4 months out and my husband and I have a pact. When we go to dinner somewhere, I will usually have a salad with grilled chicken and he orders a lighter meal and eats most of my salad for me.

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What about mood swings, does this happen to most people? I'm trying to give him the good, bad and the ugly. I want to prepare him the best I can.

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Hormones can cause mood swings. Explain that to your husband and make sure he gives you a little slack for any bitchiness directed at him. Give him slack for getting annoyed with your moods. Hormones can also cause your libido to go through the roof - so be sure he knows of the positive aspects of this all too.

I didn't like my support groups either - so Im not sure attending one with you will be helpful.

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I hate to be one of the support group naysayers, but I have to be honest. Of all the classes, instruction, research...everything I did to prepare for this, the ONLY negative was going to support group meetings. They're required by my program, both pre- and post-op and I swear if I make it through this post-op year without going OFF on some contrary whiner, it'll be a miracle.

I privately call them 'Enabling Group' because, much as @@Dub describes, they tend to be dominated by a small but vocal minority of malcontents who just want permission to be miserable and to be off-plan because they 'can't help themselves'. 'I couldn't stop myself' or 'I can't help it, it just happens' are two of the most irritating phrases I've ever heard and I hear them at every meeting.

I leave support group not supported in the LEAST, but as I walk to my car, I remind myself that even watching bad behavior being modeled can be a moment of learning. And I'm DEFINITELY learning what NOT to do :)

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I hate to be one of the support group naysayers, but I have to be honest. Of all the classes, instruction, research...everything I did to prepare for this, the ONLY negative was going to support group meetings. They're required by my program, both pre- and post-op and I swear if I make it through this post-op year without going OFF on some contrary whiner, it'll be a miracle.

I privately call them 'Enabling Group' because, much as @@Dub describes, they tend to be dominated by a small but vocal minority of malcontents who just want permission to be miserable and to be off-plan because they 'can't help themselves'. 'I couldn't stop myself' or 'I can't help it, it just happens' are two of the most irritating phrases I've ever heard and I hear them at every meeting.

I leave support group not supported in the LEAST, but as I walk to my car, I remind myself that even watching bad behavior being modeled can be a moment of learning. And I'm DEFINITELY learning what NOT to do :)

You see it a lot in theses forums, too. That's why unfortunately vets have a tendency to disappear after a while. You'll see once you're on here long enough. It just can get....repetitive. ;)

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