Having a date wtih a cheater

[Hippie72 23]

So am doing well and losing weight and following my diet and an evil thought keeps pressing .... When do I get to cheat...what will I eat .... will it be a whole day of cheating or just one meal .... will that screw things up? How often will I allow myself to cheat ...

I know I don't need permission and prolly could have been mixing my shakes with ice cream the whole time but why bother with the surgery.

I got fat cause I ate food I wasn't supposed to eat. Not sure where I am going with this post just kinda typing out loud. But I'm sure I'm not the only one who thought about a reward with food that wasn't exactly on the menu and am wondering if others had a cheat day?

I know as a woman I should treat myself to some clothes or a purse or some heels I could use to stab someone with for suggesting to get clothes, not that that isn't a great idea. But am hoping as you read the post that you get where I'm going.

Have a great weekend!

[Bufflehead 6,358]

It might be less tempting to think about if you called it what it is, self-sabotage, rather than "cheating." Cheating just sounds so cute and daring, right? But say to yourself, when do I get to self-sabotage? How often will I let myself self-sabotage? Will I self-sabotage for an entire day, or just for a meal? Etc. At least to me, it sounds a lot more serious and a lot less fun when I call it out by its true nature. Good luck!

[Hippie72 23]

That is a great twist ... I like it .. like it a lot.

Thank you for that!

[sc101071 398]

You're talking awfully soon about cheating.

You're stomach is smaller. That's what you went in for. That will get you only so far. And it will not get you anywhere if you are going to allow yourself days of ice cream.

I just know that most of us got here because one chip leads to half a bag, or a spoonful of ice cream leads to a pint.

I would guess that 99 percent of this board wants everyone to be a success. And, I hope you really take the advice of doctors to find a different outlet for those feelings.

I would find someone to talk to about strategies to help you do that. I would hate to wake up 6 months down the road at the same weight and 1/4 of the stomach.

Edited August 26, 2016 by sc101071

[eclecticwingtips 130]

I refuse to think of less nutritional food as "cheating" or even self sabotage. I have eaten pizza, hot chips and even ice-cream since surgery but I plan them into my day and calories. I am aim eat well 95% of the time so I can occasionally indulge.

In some ways this is harder because the tempting foods are present and they aren't 'banned'. But in life there is always temptation and yummy not so nutritious foods available and I'd prefer to work on my self control than ban food or feel guilty when it's eaten

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[AvaFern 3,516]

Before the sleeve the idea of "cheating" is likely what made me fat. I would lose weight and then as soon as I had a cookie, it was ...well I cheated, now I'm done. I am almost 3 years post-op and I no longer view any food as cheating. If I want a cookie, I eat one, and because of that, I no longer really want them very often. I was in the store today and chicken wings looked good. I got 4 of them, I ate 2 in my car, and I threw the rest out. In the past, that would have been cheating and I would have been robbing myself of my right to cheat if I didn't eat them all. Because I can now eat such a small amount, I largely eat what I want to. To be fair, I also felt kind of sick from those stupid wings, and if I really eat anything that is bad in a volume more than a few bites, I end up puking, so that may be part of why it works for me. Ultimately though, while I was losing I tried to limit my intake of sweets and to not "cheat" very often, because I knew that I had a limited amount of time where it would be a lot easier to lose weight than it would be in the future. Now that I have been at goal for 16 months, I have found it interesting how I don't really have a cheater mentality about food anymore. It's certainly a nice benefit of the sleeve that I did not anticipate.

[Hippie72 23]

I do plan on talking with my NUT and my surgeon about these issues. So I can get a better grip, but I enjoy the boards because I can type a thought that I am sure others have had and maybe I'm wrong maybe they haven't had and always find good feedback and "food for thought."

I still have cravings though and still trying to come up with a way to deal with them. I do appreciate the feedback or I wouldn't have posted at all.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

It's not a cheat, it's a choice! You're a grown up and you can do whatever you want.

You get all the blame for your "failures" but you get all the credit for your successes!

[sharonintx 1,275]

I cheat every day and have since the very beginning. I don't even think of it as cheating. I just do my thing and let the chips fall where they may.

So far the chips have fallen here:

I lost the weight i wanted to lose, I do not have a real issue with gaining weight, sometimes gain a couple pounds but they disappear soon.

I'm healthy, happy enough, and do not spend much time worrying about calories, carbs, etc.

I admit to eating too much sugar. I'm sure I'd feel better overall if I'd cut out some of the sweets. But my daily Slurpee makes me very happy.

[highfunctioningfatman 2,675]

The funny thing is that if I were to "cheat" it would be with meat! I'm a carnivor.

[Dub 9,922]

Opened the thread thinking it would be about something else entirely.......

Glad I opened it, though, as @@Bufflehead was spot on with her reply. Good stuff right there.