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I said I wasn't going to tell people but I've told everybody. I also have a big mouth. I'm excited and I can't keep it a secret AT ALL! I don't care what people think about it. But I might care later when I'm all skinny. People are gonna tell people. "Yea she's pretty but it's because she had WLS". Grrr I don't want that.

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@@laceemouse

Just an FYI, because you'de said you have mostly thin friends...... I'm not sure others have found this to be true, but I found my thinner friends were the most supportive when I told them. The ones that usually were the most negative were my overweight/obese friends.

Weird, hu?

Exactly the same for me.

Jo x

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I've told a few people.. husband, daughter, 1 sister, bestfriend at work, a friend who had band, and another friend who is going to have sleeve in spring.

It is none of anyones business what I do to my body medically. I do not ask what medical procedures others have, do you?

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My husband is very private and insisted we tell no one. Even his 30 year old son has no idea. We took care of ourselves. I value my husband and his request. I gained a healthy respect for keeping my mouth shut because I want to live, not discuss our surgery with people. Over and over people rant about confiding with one friend who spreads the word. I even remember one person here who told HR at work, who shared the information.

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For me it is easier to tell people I had surgery. I had surgery in June when I was off from work for summer break went back August 1 almost 40lbs lighter everybody asking how you did blah blah so I just said surgery so they leave me alone lol

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My family knows and I've only told 4 people at work. I don't really care what other people think of they find out

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I have only told a few people so far I don't feel it is everybody's business I am a blabber mouth also but I don't want to hear any negativity. The few that I have told have mainly been supportive. Actually I am very lucky my husband is my biggest supporter. My daughters when I told them were supportive. In the past I had considered bypass they were not supportive of that.

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I've only told my husband and one friend. I have no desire to share my journey with people who will most likely not understand it. I lost about 50 pounds a few years ago and got a lot of inquiries about the weight loss, so I expect to get them again once I have the surgery. I plan to say that I am eating less and exercising more, which is true. For me, I am less confident as an obese person and constantly talking about my weight doesn't help. This is what I feel most comfortable doing, but each person has to find their own comfort level with sharing or not sharing their surgery story.

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I only told a few people but people talk. When you lose weight, many people assume you've had surgery. Just figure out your canned answer to the question "how are you losing weight?" My answer was always eat less, move more.

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