Advice needed

[Icantbelieveit 955]

So basically YOU find it cheating and since YOU lost weight, YOU feel like YOU got robbed by doing it the old fashioned way.

How about thinking of HIM and HIS health and be happy however HE becomes healthier?

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[okiegirl1980 73]

My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

You are entitled to having feelings about this and as spouse you have merit voicing those same feelings. He has the right to hear what you say and make the decision. If he has the "fatty gene" even if he works out and eats right he may lose weight but.... the likelihood that he may gain it all back plus is there as well.

Try and look at the positive he will be able to enjoy all the things you now enjoy w you. Nothing will be holding him back. You can have a solid relationship while doing loads of fun kick ass things! And since you both will be eating less he can buy you more pretty things.

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

Why would YOU feel disrespected? I wasn't aware that someone else's choices related to being healthy have anything to do with you? You have different bodies, different life experience. Just curious.

I feel like he's cheating the process of losing the weight, like he just needs to work harder or needs to find more will power to correct his diet. He gets jealous of my achievement and wants the same thing right now. I feel like him doing it by surgical means would diminish how hard I had to work at losing the weight. I don't feel he at all meets the medical criteria that I would recommend this to a patient.

My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

Why would YOU feel disrespected? I wasn't aware that someone else's choices related to being healthy have anything to do with you? You have different bodies, different life experience. Just curious.

I feel like he's cheating the process of losing the weight, like he just needs to work harder or needs to find more will power to correct his diet. He gets jealous of my achievement and wants the same thing right now. I feel like him doing it by surgical means would diminish how hard I had to work at losing the weight. I don't feel he at all meets the medical criteria that I would recommend this to a patient.

you know it isn't about you right?

What does HIS doctor say about him meeting medical criteria? I wasn't aware that med students were licensed to practice medicine on friends and family.

[smiley1968 17]

My husband is somewhat supportive but he forgets ..I constantly have to remind him that I can't have certain things ..he came home with a bag of almost joys ..my favorite..I could kill him ..

My surgery is Oct 20

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