Life changes, and nerves?!

[AudreyDarling 46]

Hello All! I am the oldest of 4 girls and the only one that is obese, with my later onset of pcos and being undiagnosed I really piled the pounds on quickly! My youngest sister (21 probably a size 4-6) goes between living with me and my next sister down. She has really bad eating habits and it's easy for me to follow along. When I started this journey she had moved away, well yesterday she moved back and I had to drop the bomb that I would be having vsg and I feel like she instantly judged me and thought I was taking the easy way out. This is the first family member I have got a negative reaction from, and it freaked me out. I was so excited and proud of myself, for making this call to better myself and now I'm doubting everything!!! Any advice?!

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Continue to be proud of yourself and excited about your journey. Chances are that your sister truly doesn't understand. Her opinion is just that, her opinion.

[Christinamo7 4,042]

you know what? if there WAS an easy way out I'd be fighting you for the first place in line.

OF COURSE. we all would. so even if that WAS true it wouldn't be BAD.

Obesity is a disease, it is not laziness. PCOS is a medical condition and this should help. there is no shame in that.

I got some mild negativity from my immediate family but truth is they were scared if I would be ok. I am and they are fine. curious even. they are thrilled with my improved health.

it is easier than doing the weight loss without the sleeve, but it's never "easy"

advice? just forge ahead to do what you feel is best for you and let their opinions be their opinions. take note and move forward.

[KristenLe 5,979]

Explain to her that only 5% of obese people who lose weight on their own are able to keep it off. With PCOS, it is extremely hard to even lose. Without surgery, it may be difficult for you to have children if you want them. Your health is more important than her approval. Hopefully she'll come around and support you.