Need advice.

[Tonya83 6]

Need to know how much weight I need to loss to get approved for gastric bypass my dietician don't want to approve me for the surgery because I'm gaining weight instead of losing, and she feels like I'm not going to succeed if I do have the surgery because my head is not in the game even though I really the surgery and feel like I absolutely needs it. I want to get this show on the road and prove to her that I can do this now and after I have the surgery so I want to lose weight and start eating better so how much do I have to lose for her to see that I'm actually doing it and approve me? Any advice plz I really want this.

[wonderdawn 2]

I had to lose 5-10% of my body weight.

[Tonya83 6]

Okay thanks I'm to lose that much since I don't want to lose too much I just want to lose just enough to prove I can do it and to get approved.

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[MayMarie 349]

I'm curious to know why you want to lose "just enough"? This pre-op time is crucial to make changes that will ensure your success after surgery. Cutting out carbs, soda, and fried foods now is only going to benefit you. If you are gaining during this time perhaps counseling or more frequent appointments with your dietician would be beneficial?

[Cervidae 2,389]

Have you cut out sugar/white bread and Pasta? How about soda? Are you drinking enough Water? These things alone will frequently allow people to drop several pounds quickly. As people have said above, this time isn't about proving you can do it so much as actually making the changes that will become a part of your everyday living for the rest of your life. You have to show yourself that you are capable of following a strict plan and giving up the things you like that are unhealthy, and the weight loss that follows that is what the nutritionist is looking for.

Also as someone suggested above, are you in or have you considered therapy? I truly believe every person considering or getting weight loss surgery should be seeing a therapist. This is a HUGE change and a huge undertaking, and that can be scary and difficult if you're struggling emotionally to deal with all of it.

My inbox is always open if I can help you at all. We didn't have a specific amount to lose, but they did expect to see a downward trend of weight. I think I only lost maybe 5 pounds in the whole 7 months of preparing, and it certainly was not for lack or trying, but losing 5 pounds vs. gaining 5 pounds is a big difference in terms of what's going on behind the scenes. That's what they nutritionists/surgeons are looking for: proof that you have changed your habits behind closed doors.

Good luck to you! Never has this process been easy but it has always been entirely worth it.

[Tonya83 6]

The reason I said "just enough" is because I feel like the more weight I lose, I don't think I'll get approved because they going to think I can do it on my own knowing I need that extra help, I'm not saying that I'm just going to stop eating healthy and start back eating junk food I'm just saying I don't want to lose a lot to not qualify for the surgery and I'm not saying I don't know what to eat to lose the weight , I just got to start doing it that's why I am going to talk to a counselor.

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[MayMarie 349]

I lost 30 pounds before surgery and it was fine. The only way losing weight usually disqualifies you is if you're really low BMI to begin with from what I understand

[Djmohr 6,965]

@@Tonya83

Hi Tonya! Welcome! This process can be somewhat confusing as you are getting started.

Most insurance companies and Bariatric programs are more concerned with showing that you will put the effort in to lose weight.

For me, I didn't have to lose a set amount, I simply had to show that I was following the program which meant not gaining.

You jump through all these hoops that seem a bit crazy when you are going through it but honestly they all make sense. Insurance companies and Bariatric team want to make sure if you get the surgery you will follow the program because it is the program that helps you become successful, not the surgery.

The surgery is simply a tool. You have to fuel the weight loss by what you put into the tool. A high Protein, low carb diet is critical to long term success. I can honestly tell you that once you lose all the weight and get to goal, maintenance is even harder! If you go back to old behaviors at any point you are likely to gain back your weight. So, they are working with you to build a lifetime of good behaviors now.

Hopefully this makes a lot of sense. I remember being so frustrated because I needed this surgery so bad but it took 9 months to get through it. Now, I totally get it! It was all about giving me time to get my head and heart in the right place and I am thankful for everything I learned in the process.

I never want to go back to weighing 310lbs.

[Tonya83 6]

Have you cut out sugar/white bread and Pasta? How about soda? Are you drinking enough Water? These things alone will frequently allow people to drop several pounds quickly. As people have said above, this time isn't about proving you can do it so much as actually making the changes that will become a part of your everyday living for the rest of your life. You have to show yourself that you are capable of following a strict plan and giving up the things you like that are unhealthy, and the weight loss that follows that is what the nutritionist is looking for.

Also as someone suggested above, are you in or have you considered therapy? I truly believe every person considering or getting weight loss surgery should be seeing a therapist. This is a HUGE change and a huge undertaking, and that can be scary and difficult if you're struggling emotionally to deal with all of it.

My inbox is always open if I can help you at all. We didn't have a specific amount to lose, but they did expect to see a downward trend of weight. I think I only lost maybe 5 pounds in the whole 7 months of preparing, and it certainly was not for lack or trying, but losing 5 pounds vs. gaining 5 pounds is a big difference in terms of what's going on behind the scenes. That's what they nutritionists/surgeons are looking for: proof that you have changed your habits behind closed doors.

Good luck to you! Never has this process been easy but it has always been entirely worth it.

I haven't as yet cut those things out and I'm a sweet tea lover so I know I have to let those things go to see weight and I do have to see a therapist because this hard on me but I know I have to do it for my health

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[Tonya83 6]

I lost 30 pounds before surgery and it was fine. The only way losing weight usually disqualifies you is if you're really low BMI to begin with from what I understand

Wow that's great now I'm starting to understand cause I didn't understand that

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[Tonya83 6]

I'm starting to understand it all I thought if I loss weight they wouldn't approve me and now I understand it's the other way around the more I learn the better it will be for me so thank y'all so much for the advice I needed it

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