zsnaani 29 Posted August 3, 2016 Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cervidae 2,389 Posted August 3, 2016 I've lost 227 total so far in the last two years, about 170 since surgery about a year ago. Still losing. My inbox is always open! Don't let the judgement and negativity get you down. You've taken control of your life and done things most people would be way too afraid to do. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zsnaani 29 Posted August 3, 2016 ...and I will use your box real soon...thanks so much for reaching out to me...have a great day! :-) I've lost 227 total so far in the last two years, about 170 since surgery about a year ago. Still losing. My inbox is always open! Don't let the judgement and negativity get you down. You've taken control of your life and done things most people would be way too afraid to do. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Daniel2015 262 Posted August 3, 2016 (edited) Also happy to help. My starting weight was 504, RNY on 8/4/15. Current weight 232; losing right at about 272 this year. My surgiversary is tomorrow, and one year follow up Monday. I'm celebrating by having plastic surgery! I think you have to be your own advocate. People that bring negativity, well that's about them and their "stuff"-not about you. Although everyone has been supportive to me, I know no one can understand my journey but my fellow brothers and sisters that have walked the same path. I also know what you mean, it's a different perspective to travel down from the 500's. So, feel free to message me. I'm truly happy to help. Know you're not alone and just as it takes a village to raise a child, I think it takes a community to heal from this journey. There are endless kind and supportive and inspiring people for you here. All the best, and let me know if I can be of any support or assistance. Daniel Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Edited August 3, 2016 by Daniel2015 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zsnaani 29 Posted August 4, 2016 Oh :-), thank you so very much, you will be hearing from me! Have a fantastic day! Also happy to help. My starting weight was 504, RNY on 8/4/15. Current weight 232; losing right at about 272 this year. My surgiversary is tomorrow, and one year follow up Monday.I'm celebrating by having plastic surgery! I think you have to be your own advocate. People that bring negativity, well that's about them and their "stuff"-not about you.Although everyone has been supportive to me, I know no one can understand my journey but my fellow brothers and sisters that have walked the same path.I also know what you mean, it's a different perspective to travel down from the 500's. So, feel free to message me. I'm truly happy to help. Know you're not alone and just as it takes a village to raise a child, I think it takes a community to heal from this journey. There are endless kind and supportive and inspiring people for you here.All the best, and let me know if I can be of any support or assistance.DanielSent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emme.vee 142 Posted August 4, 2016 Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too. I haven't had surgery and my starting weight is lower, but I wanted to give you some words of encouragement. You did something wonderful for your life! This is your life to live. People are always going to have something negative to say. Let them talk. Let them say what they want. I'm sure you're doing great and probably better if you had a better support system. Don't give up! I don't know if you have heard of Joel Osteen but he has a radio station on Sirius and I started listening to him. There is a message he's constantly reiterating that I'd like to share with you: shake off the negativity, shake off the self doubt, this is your time to shine! Congratulations on your decision to save your life . Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zsnaani 29 Posted August 5, 2016 YES, I DID MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE MY LIFE!!! YES, IT IS MY TIME TO SHINE!!! Thanks for mentioning Pastor Osteen, he of my favorites! I needed to be reminded of that this morning! Thanks for the support, I wish you well on your journey...take care...don't be a stranger. Struggling!!! A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too. I haven't had surgery and my starting weight is lower, but I wanted to give you some words of encouragement. You did something wonderful for your life! This is your life to live. People are always going to have something negative to say. Let them talk. Let them say what they want. I'm sure you're doing great and probably better if you had a better support system. Don't give up!I don't know if you have heard of Joel Osteen but he has a radio station on Sirius and I started listening to him. There is a message he's constantly reiterating that I'd like to share with you: shake off the negativity, shake off the self doubt, this is your time to shine!Congratulations on your decision to save your life .Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lady DT 32 Posted August 11, 2016 Hi, know that you are strong in mind and body keep up the good work. Sent from my LG-H740 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites