biglady904 65 Posted July 16, 2016 Well I'm 3 days post op it's not fun but it's not horrible. Maybe it's because of the surgery but I've been thinking a lot of my future I'm 27 and it's so much I want to do I want to go to college and I want to make friends other than my family and boyfriend I have no real friends, mainly because I'm very shy and I'm scared to actually talk to people when I get in crowds my anxiety kicks into overdrive so does anyone have any advice for me ? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OKCPirate 5,323 Posted July 17, 2016 Congrats on this side of the losers bench. When you start getting over to discussion of issues outside of WLS, everyone's opinion here is what it is. If you follow the program and you lose what I would expect you can lose, you will find you social circle will change. If it is for the good or ill, well that is up to you and how you utilize the new opportunities. WARNING: In 27-57 days you may experience some strange feelings known as a hormone dump. Not everyone does, I sure as heck did. This means an increase in libido and other things. If you are planning, do NOT make any life changing decisions during this three to four month phase. Please post in the powder room for more female perspective, but while I enjoyed my time there, I would not want to make it a lifetime preoccupation. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KristenLe 5,979 Posted July 17, 2016 Start off by going to a WLS Support Group. You would probably benefit from therapy too. You're very young and have your life in front of you - you can do whatever you want! Start a list of all the things you want to do and work on accomplishing them! Take it slow! If you enjoy reading - join a book club. Join an online group for something that interests you and meet people online first to break the ice and then maybe get involved in person. Be active - if you're all hiking or walking it's less anxiety inducing! Enjoy life!!! Sent from my KFFOWI using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Inner Surfer Girl 12,015 Posted July 17, 2016 Well I'm 3 days post op it's not fun but it's not horrible. Maybe it's because of the surgery but I've been thinking a lot of my future I'm 27 and it's so much I want to do I want to go to college and I want to make friends other than my family and boyfriend I have no real friends, mainly because I'm very shy and I'm scared to actually talk to people when I get in crowds my anxiety kicks into overdrive so does anyone have any advice for me ? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Isn't it great when you can start looking forward to the future with hope and optimism because of WLS? You can do anything you want. We are sometimes the only thing holding us back. Setting a goal, like going to college is very doable. It helps to break your goal down into small steps so it isn't as overwhelming. This would be a great time to consider talking to a counselor or therapist if you don't already have one. A good counselor can help you to find ways to overcome barriers to reaching your dreams. Whether it is addressing your anxiety or learning new coping skills, one-on-one and group counseling would be a good start. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OKCPirate 5,323 Posted July 17, 2016 @biglady904 I hope you will take the advise of... @KristenLe@Inner Surfer Girl I really do think think they know what they are talking about. I am much older than you. I get it. I have my kids nearly out of the house and we are in a much different place, but I think their suggestions may be spot on. So please let them know if it was helpful. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
