OK, so lets say you decided not to tell about surgery...

[NanaRenan 0]

Not preachy at all. Thats exactly why I want to tell my parents....Thank you for reminding me of that...

I guess in the back of my head, I'm the same old me. Still afraid of failure. Like its just one more weight loss thing I'm failing at. kwim?

I know I will do great at this and this is my last and only chance at making this huge change, but I still a little nervous about it not working...:omg:

Thanks for your input. I'm thinking of telling my parents and those close to me and deciding on the rest as it comes....:clap2:

I'm so happy I was able to express myself without coming off too opinionated.

I know everyone is different, and I'm not a very 'private' person at all. I've seen a lot of hurt and unnecessary suffering come from people being too private.

And, not to sound sanctimonious, I would feel like a hypocrit telling people "Oh, I'm just eating healthier and exercising more." ESPECIALLY if it is someone overweight!!!

Because if I was considering having WLS and worked up the nerve to ask someone who'd had significant and rapid weight loss -- and that was the reply I heard -- I would just walk away saying, "See, you're such a loser and a failure -- why can't YOU just eat better and exercise!!! You're such an idiot. Why don't you just go stuff your face some more!!?!"

I guess I can't place the importance of my pride above the possibility of my less-than-100%-honest response setting off negative feelings in someone else.

Just my POV, I guess.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I didn't want to tell very many people after I had someone tell me that I was taking the easy way out.

I don't feel that living with the band is all that easy. Some days it's easy, but not always.

Plus, it's not like RNY where the weight just melts off . It's still just like being on a diet. Even with the band, I won't lose unless I eat right and exercise.

[girlygirlz 0]

Hey, the first Western Barriatric person I have seen!! I am going through the process and hope to have surgery by October or November (insurance approval or not - I am worth it!) I hear Dr. Ganser is great, my surgeon is Dr. Sasse. At first I wasn't going to tell anyone but my immediate family but I have a big mouth and can't keep a secret! I am most afraid to tell my really heavy friends because they may be jealous or judgmental. I thought when I told people they would say oh you are not fat enough for weight loss surgery but nobody did. I guess I look fatter than I thought. I think you should probably tell your parents - assuming they aren not the controlling type. My mom was very sweet and said she will come stay with me after surgery. The rest of the world it really is none of their business! Good luck and I would love to here more from my fellow Renoite!

[losingjusme 12]

i told work (i was in a lead position and had to tell my boss i would be out for a week, she asked why, and i caved - she however blabbed it to too many - another story), DH, and some friends.

i had sugery in October and did end up telling my parents in December (after about 50 pounds left).

best of luck to ya!